Tales Of A Small Fry = 福星の故事s

Because Amy Showed Her Eons Ago Photo = Ah Fry Also Game To Share! WIDE GRIN Pick Me Out From The Photo + You Is Get Fwee Gift From Me! Good One Hor, Not Cheapo 的 WIDE GRIN

2012-01-24T23:00:00.002+08:00

Those who read my blog long enough will easily pick me out. Hehehehe......Sis, don't tell! Photo in hi-res = click + see!

For The Last Few Happily Quiet CNYs, I is Reminded Of Maternal Ah Ma

2012-01-24T10:15:00.002+08:00

The feisty awesome cook of the clan who loves all her grandkids. Some of them gramps of her era can be incredibly biased of grandkids from the sons + daughters.

I've blogged of Ah Ma here a few times, and it shall be the same again, to reminiscence of her kindness + cooking skills. Well, I'm inspired to blog of her 'cos of something that mom said last night, over the phone to one of her sisters (my aunt) of Ah Ma.

"Actually, when Ma is still around + weak, we should not let her cook for CNYs and get catering instead! It drains so much of her energy to cook for so many of us! *pause* Yah, she would accept if we make her + order in advance, then she can do nothing about it."

I was appalled to hear that, and thankfully, this thought only came after Ah Ma expired for sometime.

Mom is a very one-minded who often don't have the heart to think of the other party of what they want, she'd just bulldoze into what she thinks is right. In short, she never cares if it's what the other person wants.

If she gets her way, the other person is marked "good" and of course "bad" if they voice out or rebel. I'm often the prodigal daughter who fight for whatever equality + justice I can get in the household, and sometimes on behalf of dad + bro + sis.

But I digress. Mom shouldn't be the limelight of my thoughts of Ah Ma.

Ah Ma headed a canteen back in the industrial era of S'pore where workers were by the tens, if not hundreds. She can make food magic with the hands of hers and I often lamented at mom at why she didn't inherit the awesome skill to make us happy meals.

Mom has a poor judgement of ingredients, she doesn't know how to choose the good ones despite near to 40 years of cooking in her life. Le sigh. There're cooks and there're cooks, I guess.

Sorry, I digressed again.

With experience heading a canteen, Ah Ma has alot of recipes in her head, my growing up years is often well-fed of her magical cooking whenever we visit in the weekends. How magical she was that simple food can taste so heavenly that mom couldn't replicate with our begging requests.

Like fried chicken wings.

Ah Ma's always fragrant, well-seasoned, crispy and golden brown. Mom's entirely opposite. I think this is why we're all skinny under mom's culinary leadership = we're malnourished at our tastebuds.

Oops. HAHAHAHA.

Come every Chinese New Year, Ah Ma would labour in the kitchen for 3 days prior, so her brood of kids + sons/daughter-in-laws + grandkids could feast on the products of her loving magical hands. My mouth would water at the thought of them now.....

Curry chicken
Lye cakes (bought)
Braised sea cucumber with duck + dried mushrooms.
Ngoh hiang.
Stir-fry tang-hoon.
Braised dried bamboo shoots. --> I heard this takes the most effort to make
Balacan chilli + a squeeze of fresh lime juice. --> dad + some uncles + aunts would eat the lye cakes with just that
Pepper pork stomach soup.
Fried prawn fritters
Red dates + longan tea. --> the only thing I avoid

In Ah Ma's late years, where her body starts getting weak, she'd still insist on making these CNY staples for all of us despite our callings to slow down + make everything a simple meal. Astute o' Ah Ma would often reply, "No! I have to do it, or when I'm gone, you all won't be able to eat them anymore!"

Then all of us would CHOY at her words + my folks + aunts + uncles + us grandkids would reply that she'd live a ripe old age + live to see her great-great-great grandkids. Well, Ah Ma was a great grandma at the time she expired.

But what a visionary Ah Ma was, none of my aunts (even more so my mom) has her culinary fingers.

I remember to smell the food she's cooking when I'm about to near her door come a visiting when I was a little kid. And announce aloud of what Ah Ma's cooking + be often right. Mom would say I've a very sharp nose.

Ah, Ah Ma's bak-zhang.....laksa.....hae-biah-zee (fried prawn dough cakes).....yam cake.....mee-hoon-kway.....that awesome pestled-dried-shrimps-cucumber-onions-chilli Malay food......

Ah Ma is a gambler who often pawn her jewelry to fund her losing hobby, and some of our aunts would redeem them back + chided her for giving up like that. In the end, her favourite son (my youngest uncle) took them all to fund his gambling debts.

Other than that, Ah Ma is a real spunky one who would follow elderly tours to China + take a bus to her sister's for some little gambling fun at her late 70s. Mom wouldn't even go over to Pasir Ris, or Farmart for fresh produce.

Ah Ma would approve all of her grandkids' love interest + welcome them with joy, she even learnt some smatter of English to talk to sis's ex-Belgian boyfriend that tickled us no end.

And whenever Ah Ma hear of her kids or grandkids very ill with cold or flu, she'd take the public transport to visit them without a call. She has to do that because we'd tell her not to visit from her old age, we were worried of the roads for her.

Ah, Ah Ma. She has expired for more than 3 years, exact time that I'd forgotten (not good with numbers), and still lovingly remembered by us.

I'm so glad thoughtless mom didn't manage to kill Ah Ma's love in time by that idea of doing catering for CNYs. *shivers*

Musings of (Work) Life

2012-01-23T12:12:00.003+08:00

I was reading this off a friend's Facebook and recalled her working life so far.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/holly-robinson/quitting-your-job_b_1211880.html

She's a spunky woman in our sheltered S'pore, I shall recount her story in points for easy reading. Hehehe....

A professional with MNCs (not high-flyer).
A good worker + good relationship with peers and boss.
Whenever she feels like wanting a break or doesn't like the company anymore, she quits her job.
Takes a long break = about 6 months each time.
Travels around.
Then starts to look for job again.
She always gets it.
In the recent end of siesta late last year, she has 4 offers from MNCs to pick from.
Whoever says the job market is bad?

And with reading the article she shared, I looked at her + looked at myself. Story below in points too. Heh.

I was a salesperson for 13 years.
Changes a job almost yearly.
Some lasted only 8 months.
I change once I felt bored or doesn't agree with the company's management policies.
By right, my CV doesn't look good = poor employment chance.
But I always got it + excel as the top sales or one of them.

Looking back, I don't know why I'm so lucky, till I recalled the comments made by 1 of my previous boss + a recruiter of their impression of me in the interviews.

"You're a breath of sun after the numerous interviews of gloomy people, so I decided to hire you on the spot." --> Boss, in the SARS period where alot of businesses were badly hit.
"You glow positivity in the interview which is very rare in people, so despite your poor looking CV, I decided that you're what you wrote, a top salesperson." --> the recruiter who placed me in the best company I've worked in in my working life, it faltered after I left.

Unlike my friend, I'm a job hopper while she often stay for 3-5 years in each. But like my friend, the relationship with our peers + bosses are often cordial.

I was fired from my job before, when I didn't agree to the working condition set by my boss, which was a very small company. It's still small now. I also had my bad patches with the wrong company too.

The point of it all, isn't about being a job-hopper as you fancy. No.

My point being -

Know yourself well, at where you can excel + where you can't.
Then set forth at finding that job profile.
Don't aim too high nor too low = you're likely to end up feeling dead in it.
Put in your best in your job.
Create enjoyment in it.
Create good relationships with your peers + bosses.

There is no point fantasizing about what you can do or of the perfect job. Fantasizing = dreaming = dreaming = like talking = it takes no effort. No tears, no energy (well, little), no reflection of yourself. It's cheap, and cheap things are often worthless.

Many people dream of being bosses but didn't want to put in the right effort for it.
Many people dream of the big job but didn't factor in the monumental effort for it.
And then, there're people who put in huge effort in their work, but the wrong kind.

There're many people who thump their chest, proclaim the desire to change their life forever, and got deflated seeing the huge effort they need to put in for any change. They go back to their old-self again + wallow in misery that they're being pushed into the dead end of Life.

Just the night before reunion dinner, I scolded NX fiercely over the phone of her job woes. She said her boss hates her and she's miserable. For an hour, I fired at her citing all the wrongs she has done in her job + how she has never put in the right effort for it. She cried and I scolded her again for having the thick skin to cry at me.

I put in so much effort to help her at every critical point and she let down herself, her family and me time and again. I said, your parents have wasted their love + resources on you for the last 36 years of their lives.

To want a decent life, one has to put in effort, and the right one at that. To be a kind person, one has to dish the right sort of kindness. I don't believe being forever-good-temper-no-matter-the-situation-or-person = kindness. Try telling a naughty + rebellious 3 year old kid kindly + softly not to play with matches and see what you get.

There're so many adults who think + behave like a 3 year old, so many people who never grow up despite living for 60 years of their lives.

To live well, it takes an incredible level and depth of wisdom to marginally get what Life is all about. And with that, the right action is needed to see yourself through the finishing line.

Yes, I've seen so many people who sprout wise words + complaining about Life and their jobs later. There're so many of such in Facebook = sprouting pearls of wisdom now + talk bad of people later. Or wallow of being marginalised.

The wise do minute amount of complaining because they know how to handle situations then move on without or little baggage = they have clarity in their thoughts + vision. Sprouting wise words + complain about people and Life are clowns + actors.

If not conmen. To garner sympathies and trick people of their trust + kindness, and their money.

Discovered By Chance. Faye Wong Got Dance For Audience One Wor! WOOHOO!!

2012-01-22T17:44:00.001+08:00

Lai Lai Lai, Chinese New Year Liao = Have Some Flashback In The Timespace Tunnel! WIDE GRIN This Is For The 80s - 90s Peeper 的. WIDE GRIN

2012-01-22T10:11:00.002+08:00

再说南怀瑾

2012-01-13T01:15:00.001+08:00

迄今已读了南师 10 本著作
相信接下来还会继续追随他老人家的智慧

在和师父修炼的时候
是由密宗开始
然后读了不少一位密宗高僧的著作

南师教的多数是显宗（虽然他也习密宗）
尤其是禅宗
由这点进来就比较完整了

那位密宗高僧曾说南师很可能是一位大菩萨转世
好像说的是鸠摩罗什

先不说真实性有多少
那么久远的大智慧者还能现在回来利益我们沉睡的众生
甚是难得

看南师的《金刚经说什么》就不难觉得他的功力
《金刚经》说难不难
说容易也不至于
和《心经》一样

别看文字简单
那行间的至理就未必参透得了

我看了南师的《金刚经说什么》
好像给当头棒喝了好多次

三年来在这条路上
今年看的经典最多
南师的是在看完那些原文经典后才开始读
一读就更明白我读过的经典的意思

现在回头看这契机
不能不感叹老天的指引和栽培
时间和时机的编排是那么的刚刚好、那么玄妙

南师一直说他没开悟、没大彻大悟
看他教导的和我在这条路上经验、看过的
他在峨眉山闭关那时已经大彻大悟了

这世界很大
宇宙更大的无法想象
佛经的教导不过透露一点这宇宙的轨道是如何的行使
还有更多的知识和智慧没公开出来

没公开
是因为我们人类的智慧开发到顶了
也只能了解那么多

开发到顶了
要多久？
至少再来个 5000 年吧

所以我一点也不担心 2012 年的末日观
担心这个的都没了解过佛经

在众多宗教里
只有佛教教导心理学
但在远古的印度
那是叫《成唯识论》

现在的心理学只了解到人类心理的第六识
那已经很深了

但佛教的《成唯识论》提及到第八识 - 阿赖耶识
是我们人类的中心种子
是一切善、恶的大本营、源头

科学家还没发现到
我想再过个 100、200 年就应该会发掘了吧

佛教的深和远是大多数人无法想象的

在那么久远的几千年前
没有科学时代
没有仪器的时代
佛陀就说了空气和水里的 “八万四千个众生”

现代科学家就发觉空气和未煮过的水里有无数的微生物
都是活生生有生命的东西

能不佩服吗？
一个提倡和平
不侮辱、批评其他宗教的科学先知宗教
能不佩服吗？

我很感恩我的语文福报让我有机会了解佛教
和它伟大的护持者们
在浩瀚的历史拔河里
给我们后世人类留下那么多的教材

从梵文翻译到中文是多巨大的工程啊
而翻译是其中最麻烦的工作

我义务替本地一个大寺翻译他们的中文法会布告到英文
就已经略略尝到那滋味了
而那不过是布告而已
最多 500 个字

佛经上百万的字从梵文翻译到中文来
是多艰巨痛苦的事啊

阿弥陀佛

就算有天佛、菩萨在旁协助
也是个耗时、耗力的工程

帮忙不过是帮忙
自己是那下海的人
冷暖苦辣只有自己知道

就好像我是我干女儿的干妈
最多是偶尔客串帮忙带带她
当个临时妈妈、保姆

但真正受苦受难、把屎把尿的还是我朋友
冷暖苦辣只有她知道
就连当老公的也未必详解
不过是 “知道” 那是个辛苦的差事而已

能接触到佛理是个福气和福报
能真正明白佛理的是累世不可思议的大福报

我能够接触到南师的教导
是不知道几辈子修来的洪福

虽然我万劫以来造了很多的孽
但能够还算幽哉闲哉的在一年里好好读到那么多的经典
而生意也算尚可
不是福报使然
那我就不知道是什么了

一位友人曾对我说过他也想一、两年不工作
好好读书、读经典

我就说
事不宜迟
乘你 35、36 岁还年轻力壮
可以吸收资讯的年龄
而银行户口还优厚的时候
赶快乘早来吧！

因为去年教过一个 50 岁的学生
易经 64 卦
还是已经分解得最容易理解的（其他学生都年轻至少 10 岁的）
他都吸收不来

那就更别说佛教的众多经典

在读南师的某著作里
他老人家也提倡修炼、学经典要乘年轻、乘早

因为等老来退休时
时间是多
金钱也不错能糊口

但身体、头脑就退化严重了
要明白、嚼噘、推敲经典的意思
要连贯各个经典里头的意义啊
做不来了

到头来还是虚度人生那 70、80 年
要得初级的灵魂解脱只能够住念了（是的，灵魂解脱有分等级的）
念阿弥陀佛希望能报到到净土那里而已

南师说的话我是无法亲身体验
因为现在才快 34 岁
但以我那 50 岁学生看来

错不了了

阿弥陀佛
我这劣徒还算赶上了

You Cannot NOT Love This Dog. Must Watch, Hohkay?

2012-01-11T11:31:00.001+08:00

宝贝，给你的信

2012-01-06T00:25:00.002+08:00

不知道要如何动笔
也不想在你面前说
就在这里一点一滴的来吧

步入我们的第 4 个月
我很庆幸我们的默契和快乐

我从小就生长在一个变种爱的家庭里

父母把吵架当家常便饭
我们小孩在小时候也很多纷争
直到近几年好些了
但也不代表我们学习到如何爱对方

我觉得我们这家子和很多人一样
都不懂什么是爱

你的家庭背景也不怎么好
但你没被影响
个性比我随和
看待事物也比我正面得多

虽然我们都在修炼
而你比我晚
但我自认远不及你的修养
我有太多要向你学习的

你很顺我这个大孩子的好玩

就昨天突发奇想说合资买 TOTO 玩玩
你爽快地说好
虽然我们的 $13.50 泡汤了
但这过程很好玩

可贵的是
你没说我乱花钱
批评我赌
我说我们下次再玩
你也笑着说好

我很庆幸我通过之前的考验
然后发现到你

我的工作给我很多压力
有时我的脑筋打结转不过来
你一句话就让我茅塞顿开

上一次在我房间里
我就不停的和自己辩论一个问题
你突然把我拉到你身边
抱着我
顷刻之间
那个结就神奇的烟消云散了

那是个奇迹

我父母都很喜欢你
他们觉得你人品很好

你妈对我有误会
但你很积极的面对
也没怨我那过失

我很多的思路都是由灵感带领的
我想怎么样就怎么样
你没怪我无常
有时还让我带着你逛长路

你让我逗你玩
由着我对你猴

还有很多、很多
我都看在眼里
摆在心里

这些感恩的话我不想在你面前说
怕一下子眼眶红了、说不下去
所以在这里说

旁人可能会以为是我们蜜月期的甜蜜
我是多愁善感了

但我们不是 15、20 的年轻人的疯狂和激情
我们早过了那阶段

我们是从朋友开始
到同学
到现在
不是一见钟情、不是激情、不是无端的爱慕

你一向来就随和
我一向来就随性
所以我们不是蜜月期症候群

现在我不再受前世的情债之苦
转而是你这么样的好人
支持我、爱护我、陪伴我

所以我特别感恩在我身边的人是你

我知道我好多个前世造的是什么样的孽
我忏悔和积极超度那些亡魂、冤魂
我不期待得到他们的宽恕
我愿意也乐意单独余生付出代价、服务社区

因为我活该

所以现在能和这么的你在一起
每天都好像是在拿花红、奖金
每天好像在路上捡到 $100 那么幸运

我很感恩、感激

有时候我觉得你和我这样随性的人在一起会辛苦
所以我会紧张你是否被我影响到
是否感觉到压力

而你的回答都是 “没有啊”

为了了解生命、宇宙的问题和答案
我的头脑时常打结

是你和因缘让我读了南怀瑾的《金刚经说什么》和《如何修证佛法》而再开悟了

南怀瑾的是理
让我读到了
你的是行动
让我目睹、感受、学习到了

我很感恩这份可贵的契机
我想这世间上没几个人有这等学习的洪福
就算有也未必觉受得到而让一切擦身而过

没有福报也得不到智慧
南怀瑾说得一点也没错
去年为自己和客户办的超度是看的一目了然

我想我那些怨亲债主原谅我、放过我了
才能够找到你和顺利的在一起
才能够在另一个层面上学习到正面的新东西（南怀瑾）

还有老天通过你给我重生的机会

我知道
我都很感恩

我希望我们接下来的日子都是在智慧中快乐的相处、成长和学习

我不会溺爱你
你也不要溺爱我

谢谢你，宝贝

=)

Learning

2012-01-03T23:25:00.000+08:00

学无学即为学
色既是空空既色

三三年路无一得
三三年路得甚多

Learning how to unlearn while learning more to unlearn = learning. Learning isn't gripping every detail we've read or experienced, it's letting it surface when it's needed = have things absorbed into our system.

This is then learning.

Like how my expired Ah Ma can make coffee with her eyes blindfolded.

My 2012 Wish

2012-01-03T19:03:00.000+08:00

Looking back my 2011 wish, I wished to be like Kong Ming = Zhu Ge Liang to my clients = give them the utmost help I can render. Remember the Takeshi Kaneshiro photo I put up?

This year, I'm kinda reversing my goal.

I'm going within to learn as much as I can from digesting 南怀瑾's books + share my learnings. I'll still be working and servicing my clients but my main aim is to learn.

Last year, my aim at help to solve people's issues gave me 100% - 150% in business growth. I want to see where focusing on learning (= not money motivated) and sharing will bring me.

I've a feeling that it'll be good. =)

杂诗

2012-01-03T00:37:00.001+08:00

三年流浪三年读
三三年来无辜负

影子里修昼里修
偶尔垂头泪暗流

千山万水心灯觅
谷底才显练功炉

关关难过关关过
一步半足向前行

处处是道处处法
三三年了盲尽醒

恩师逐出师门功德大
终明门前一句 “成度吾！”

Ah Mi Toh Hood!

I Love Jokes WIDE GRIN

2012-01-02T17:36:00.000+08:00

** And so, there I was in Chinatown, looking for a book in a Buddhist bookstore (none) when I decided to visit my fave foot reflexologist dude, Ah Pui, for some knead + prod......

Me: Ooeii! Hehehe......
Ah Pui: Ooeii! Happy New Year!
Me: Happy New Year! Eh, got slot boh?
Ah Pui: Paiseh leh, booked till 5.30pm liao.....
Me: Ah, it's ok, I just try my luck. Ahehe......Say, are you visiting the gym lately?
Ah Pui: Ahehehehehe......
Me: Or.....you fat up liao?
Ah Pui: *sly smile* Ahehehe.....boh lah, 衣服不小心买小两号 lah......
Me: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! You good!
Ah Pui: Ahahahahahahahahahaha.......!

He said, "I accidentally bought a t-shirt that's 2 size smaller lah......"

This X'mas + New Year + Other Tales

2012-01-02T00:58:00.004+08:00

This X'mas + New Year is very unusual despite my new relationship with Bee. Everyone who knows I'm in love thought I'll be spending it sweetly with another by my side, which, I initially thought too.

But it wasn't.

24th December countdown was spent in our own dens reading (me) and meditating (Bee), while Bee popped by yesterday for a fried beehoon lunch (mom's) + mooching around before going back. I was reading while Bee was sleeping in the countdown.

It was unusual and a tad boring for a honeymoon period couple, which I though so too. But oh, reading the latest book I procured served quite alot of food for thought that I'd totally forgotten how odd we are. Hahahahahahahaha......

The way That Guy teaches me isn't like many of those Masters out there. He throws me into the deep + shallow of the pool, sometimes giving me a net to fish and sometimes my bare hands to catch. In early 2011, he threw me out of the door with the words, "I've taught you everything already."

That really panicked me. But I don't know everything! How could I have learnt everything!

I was very scared and slightly depressed for a while, trying to pick myself alone to face the big wide world. It was when Malachite Guy said, "开悟前，是师父度。开悟后，是自己度！(Before enlightenment, the Teacher will deliver you. After enlightenment, you deliver yourself!)" that I drew a deep breath to move on.

With a nagging question in my mind, "How could I be enlightened without even knowing?", I move on with alot of anxiety and worries but I have to move on. Things are starting to roll, classes are about to start, you can't just cancel everything, don't you?

Especially when That Guy always say, "Your lacking of confidence is what's eating and killing you." Which Malachite Guy and A echoed too. Oh very well, I'll go on then.

Then by chance, I stumbled upon a big Master's works in Kino and started a journey of uncovering more of his works for reference. He is 南怀瑾, 94 this year, healthy and hale.

Being a man of "olden times", he's especially forward-thinking and open-minded about sharing knowledge. He shares all of his learnings on meditations, Taoism and Buddhism in all of his books, very carefully alerting us of the pitfalls that he'd been through in the past.

I went on a whirlwind search for his works in a bookstore at Bras Basah that got a 40+ years old cashier lady's attention - She was very amused that a young person like me would have heard of him + buying his books that she gave the membership discount on the spot.

My learning world opened up a new horizon from him with so much more answers not given or found from That Guy. He's highly articulate about expressing the elements of Buddhist scriptures and sutras, he described the various areas of meditation in such great details that other meditation writers are lightyears from him.

I think That Guy knows it's time for me to know of other Masters that he threw me out to help kickstart the journey. I'm fiercely loyal to him that I've almost stop reading other literature to update myself before that.

Beyond that, I'm terribly lucky and blessed to be proficient in Mandarin for there isn't any English translation of 南怀瑾's works. Even the English translations of the major Buddhist scriptures and sutras are sadly lost of their rightful meanings.

But we cannot discredit the English translators for losing the elements, the polar literal backgrounds between English and Mandarin give no verbatim at all.

As I read 南怀瑾's latest compilation (after finishing 《金刚经说什么》quite recently), I recalled how many Buddhist scriptures, sutras, their related books and I-Ching ones digested in 2011......about 20 of them?

That I realised it's time for me to unlearn them, or I'd not be able to use them in the way it should be.

Like how 1 of my student went for the SGD$5000 reading-memory course he took with his wife shared, "You don't read a book word by word, you hold it "further" from you so you read it like a picture. It then goes into your memory system and get "summoned" when the right situation arises. But before that happens, you cannot hold onto what you've read "in memory". Instead, you let it "forget", it's not lost like how a deleted data isn't lost in the hard disk, it will come back when it needs to. This is also why children has better academic memory of books than adults, their perspective to reading is very different from us. They can recall what they've read from memory but we can't."

This is what I'm doing now 'cos I'm feeling the sluggish in my brain from ingesting 20 Buddhist scriptures, sutras, their related books and I-Ching ones for the whole of 2011.

Of the Buddhist texts, I read only the 1st original translated ones from Sanskrit without the modern interpretation, taking more time to understand and digest. I started doing that when I don't agree with some of the modern interpretations of 大日经.

Reading 南怀瑾's 《如何修证佛法》，《药师经的济世观》，《学佛者的基本信念》 now, I'm filled with awe of how much details I've missed when reading the scriptures and sutras. He made alot of astute notes of critical points we need to ponder over when learning from the scriptures and sutras.

And I recalled this that I've read somewhere, "The more we know, the more we know we don't know. The crippling bit is how we move on from knowing fully well that we don't know so much."

Then I recall again of what That Guy, Malachite Guy, A and 南怀瑾 said about dealing with it, "Just do it, if you don't, you would never really know what learning is all about."

Taking a deep breath, I know the real ride is about to start.

杂诗

2011-12-30T00:22:00.000+08:00

佛法三藏十二部
道济狗肉加热酒

两者皆为众生度
不过青天或河流

法在道中道流法
开悟与否在心中

无人可言汝开悟
还需言语还需修

三年流浪三年读
吾在度人或被度

法流来去空亦色
提起放下皆入流

三年修练空与色
色与空相何离流

哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈！

Singles Looking For Love Should Look Into This As A Guide, Quite As Thorough As It Can Get With My Personal Experience + My Clients'

2011-12-30T00:05:00.002+08:00

http://muslimvillage.com/2011/10/27/15806/10-ways-to-avoid-marrying-the-wrong-person/

Look beyond the "muslim" in the link, it's as secular as it can be for any of us of any religion and race.

Singles, read this for better information for the road ahead.
Married ones, read this to reinforce where you're now or mend where it's broken.
Divorced ones, this is something to help pick yourself up and move on.

Yes, this is something for everyone.

I share this link as I see Bee in all of the traits in there, this is why I've been thanking the Above again and again. Of course, Bee isn't flawless, I find things abit boring/stagnant to talk with sometimes, but it's a very very small issue, in fact, it's just 0.00001% out of all of Bee.

Sharing a common goal/vision + similar character beats almost everything. I'm the romantic one, I can make things exciting. How difficult can it get, I'm a pure Pisces!

But there's a worry, I'm a serial loner, I like my solitude in my Lalaland whenever it strikes. And I do worry of neglecting Bee with/without any self-awareness, but so far, there isn't any complain from Bee. Just my childish whining once. Hehehe.....

Oh, and my autocracy. This is something sis + Mike + NX warned me over too, though no complains from Bee so far. I do my very best for opinions and permissions. *crosses fingers + toes*

But all in all, Bee is what inspired me and who let me know the article is right. The sense of peace + calm is very very essential in a relationship, and I really trust Bee for the solid character + personality.

Sis + Mango Guy, have a look too. =)

学习随想

2011-12-29T19:28:00.001+08:00

今年可以说是阅读最多经典的一年

不知道哪里来的精力和时间
因为比往年忙碌的缘故

佛教里三藏十二部
有许多是现代心理学和其他科学种类可以理解的
如《佛说入胎经》

至于律系的
因为现代教育体系的发达也可以大多放过
我想现在大家都知道要孝敬父母吧？
不可贪人妻吧？

可以放过了

现在我们城市的人类大多知书
但未必达礼
因为内心很多黑暗之处

有些是前世种下的恶因
有些是现世的家庭、成长环境带来的

但如果福德厚
又怎么会入胎于不良之家呢？
最终还是福报、因果的问题

现在在看南怀瑾的《金刚经说什么》
真是因缘来的

去年师父借我一部精美的金刚经竹签书读
据说是某一位外国高僧赠与的

那时在我办公室读到一半不支睡着了
就入了一个奇特的梦境
起来后迅速读完就搁在一边

现在看南怀瑾的解释
开了另一扇窗
更能明白其中的意义

时机刚刚好

今年做的超度多
从客户身上看到、学到不少东西

更重要的是
亲自看到福报对于一个人的重要性

在金刚经里头
智慧和福报同等重要

没福报
智慧不来
怎么教也听不懂
或是不肯接受

没智慧者
不懂得去修功德

这是多少人不懂得啊

这世界公平得很
不知因果始尽的人
都会怪老天不公平

公平呀
是你没福报看到而已
因为有些恶报是来世才得的
因为今世福报还未用尽呀

可是智慧是什么？

智慧是学习透彻世间万般事务
明白了就不用白花力气情绪生气、伤心、害怕、忧愁
明白什么事该做、怎么做

简明的说
就是提起和放下的智慧

New Flash - SIS, CALL HOME WHEN YOU IS THE FREE

2011-12-29T15:38:00.000+08:00

The Fry Household + Grapevine has incriminating evidence of a new romance in bro's life!!!

2011 is a good romance year for the Fry Household hor? You + Mango Guy are steady poon-pipi, I got Bee, and bro got chick! ~~Wait, we're sounding like a farm now, ain't we? Hmmmm......~~

*WIDE GRIN*

Empowering Thy Self

2011-12-29T11:38:00.006+08:00

What prompted me to write this was a combination of a few factors.

I've read far more scriptures than the past this year, though I did feel odd about it - How did I find the time + energy to do it with a significant increase in business? But this isn't important, the most important thing is the findings about Life.

Among the students I've taught, 1 of them is a Catholic who is a Qigong practitioner, he's open to other religions with his myriad of students and had asked me a few things on the Buddhism philosophy + ideals. 1 of that was agreeing that Buddhism is self-empowering.

Then by chance, I stumbled upon my 1st relationship's twitter yesterday. I know it has to be it, for I found traces of the old personality at work. And I was quite sad.

For the last 3 years, I've prayed countless times for my past relationships to find wisdom, love and happiness. Even those that I've crushes over (you too, L, if you're reading), I know I'm blessed and lucky to be on this road now, I want a change in their lives too. So I prayed very hard for them.

Till I got a dream that each of them are happy that I got relief and put it down. Recently this year, I find it's not the case through their Twitter or blog. For NX, it's because we're still in touch.

I was sad and wondered why. Then I got the answer in my shower yesterday night - the dreams are helping me to let go while I find the Answers to Life, and recalled That Guy telling me I should stop worrying for them in 1 of our long ago conversation. He said, "For any change to start, the party has to be willing."

And then I recalled the 南怀瑾 book on understanding Diamond Sutra that I'm currently reading. I like this wise old man alot for being astute and doesn't mince his words. He's open to share knowledge and always willing to keep us on track in our lives. He's 94 this year and being one from the old times (held a rank in WWII in the military against the Japanese), I find his thinkings very forward and modern.

Reading his teachings on the Diamond Sutra, he repeatedly calls for empowering ourselves, "No amount of Buddhist meditation, scripture, praying or chanting will effect a change in your life if you don't start from your heart. You need to set a diamond will then action upon it!"

Yes, there're miracles everyday in different ways from God, but these miracles are only fleeting blooms of nice smelling flowers that wilt if we don't set upon the road of self-change.

It's like striking lottery of say, SGD$100,000, it's quite a miracle, is it not? But it's only some short days of happiness with excess shopping, dining and vacation before it's gone. With careful investments, this SGD$100,000 will keep and grow, and one can buy things of our fancy here and there with the investment profits.

It lasts.

Now this calls for a good amount of strong will to set it going. It's very tempting to be short-sighted, give up and heed our emotions. It's very easy to go back to the old days then whine of being stuck in the rut.

But the fruit of empowering ourselves is heavenly sweet to taste, I cannot reiterate enough the goodness of holding out in our quest for positive life changes.

The road is rocky, lonely, sometimes without light in front, but we need to hold onto the belief that we want positive change in our lives, that we don't want the old us anymore. This is what Buddhism has been teaching us - Change for the better from within.

1 of Bee's old friend came to the makan gathering and she was proudly (and loudly) talking about her meditation retreats, her classes and all the different skills she's been learning e.g Reiki, alpha attunement, yoga meditation, dance meditation etc etc.

I observed her in that few hours of gathering and told Bee a few days later in a dinner at the hawker centre, "PL looks like someone with alot of arrogance but I see alot of low self-esteem. A true practitioner of these skills won't be arrogant and actively selling what she has learnt to others. If I'm not wrong, she has some childhood trauma with her family. That's why she has been looking for answers in these skills but has found none. If she has found peace, she won't be greedy to learn every single skill that she can find."

Bee affirmed my findings that PL confided of a turbulent family life in her youth.

I then let on more that many New Age practitioners embark on the spiritual/religion path because of deep family issues or personal childhood ones. They go onto this route because they want answers and solutions to relieve the pain. But most of them are still living in pain even after becoming true, authentic healing Masters of their domain.

Many people try to escape pain and suffering by distracting themselves in work, play, friends (energy vampires = pouring emotional trash into their friends), religion or hobbies. Especially religion, which has been given a bad name by over-zealous believers expounding their sects good and trampling how other religions/sects are evil.

Even Buddhism has its inter-sect issues.

This is also how past life issues haunt lives - With unlearnt issues, they're carried over to the next life with the same lesson shoved into our faces so we learn it.

No matter how much 1 loves God/Buddha/Allah etc, as long as we've not learnt the lesson and let go, we cannot reach Heaven, for it's weight in our hearts. With weights, we can't ascend. Only when we've learnt the lessons + let go of all the baggage are we light enough to go Up.

Ever had something that weighs alot in us that everyday doesn't feel like living? Even when there're happy news to be joyous over? Even when our loved ones shower us will true love and attention? Even when we got complimented by our boss + got a bonus?

We felt some happiness but not total happiness, it lasted for a few hours then the dread comes back again.

Yes, it's that thing in the heart.

Everyone of us has issues, just different ones + different scale of hurt, but they're still hurt and we need to learn about it then let go from within, from our core.

Or happiness won't knock on our door.

Start empowering ourselves from within for peace and happiness.

宝贝，给你地。WIDE GRIN

2011-12-29T10:23:00.001+08:00

生日快乐，宝贝 =)

2011-12-26T00:17:00.002+08:00

其实 27 号才是你的生日
但等得久了
我没耐性
就现在来吧

再过几个小时就是我拎着蛋糕到你家与你
和你的弟妹、小侄女
一起吹蜡烛

想到真开心
尤其会看到那小不点吃蛋糕的模样
她应该是喜欢吃的吧？

现在是我们的第 3 个月的尾声
（我的数学太糟糕了，以为 4 个月了）
还是其乐融融
让我很宽慰

你今天说
“或许我偶尔应该生气、吃醋一下。”
真让我流三条汗

但我知道你是说笑的
因为我们太和平了（到目前为止 touchwood!）
所以偶尔这一句也无妨

我很感谢你走进我的生命里
让我这个习惯又乐意孤独的人有事情忙

嘻嘻嘻

而你不止支持我修行、修炼
你也与我一起修行、修炼
太稀有了

师父说过
一个修行人能有个修行侣是很大的福气
真是我几辈子修来的洪福有你做伴
（仰或是你欠了我几世的债来还？呵呵呵呵呵呵呵 =P）

你实在太好了

当我说我朋友要见你的时候
你很正经的说
“不行，要先减肥了才能见人。”
让我差点笑弯了腰

我想要谢谢你
谢谢你信任我
给我很大的空间活动

不问我行踪
由我想失踪就失踪
由我有时拿你来开玩笑

我以前常说我是不靳的风
你碰到我不知道是好还是坏
所以我会尽我所能对你好

因为你常对我说 “没事，你去吧。”
我就也常对你说 “没事，你去忙吧。”

好在我们两都事业心重些
所以彼此了解

有时我还会替你出馊主意
来对付不好的客户
你不过笑笑然后解释为什么行不通

阿弥陀佛
太感恩了
你实在是太好了

这世界的一切很公平

我老爸在早年的时候常欺负我妈
现在换我妈来欺负他了

李光耀的太太早年的时候一心照顾家庭和养育孩子
晚年就是他来照顾中风后的她

我表姨丈早年照顾离婚后的表姨和孩子们
中风后就是表姨看护他

你现在给我那么多
我相信以后要还给你的

和上面那些例子一样
那不是负担
是 100% 愿意的

所以你不要走得太早

以我们的年龄差距
应该还有 30 年的光阴在一起

这期间我们要好好过、好好活
身体要健康
最好是可以炼到自主生死

哇
那就太完美了

我们比赛看谁修炼得比较好
谁比较快证悟

别说一定是我
我比较爱想东想西
这就是障碍了

人家说傻人好修炼
或许是你这个什么也不想、那么听话办事的人呢

到时你要反过来度我哦

呵呵呵

新的一岁了
我祝你快乐，健康，减肥成功，生意滔滔，修炼更高一层楼
一切今年比去年好

生日快乐，宝贝

嘻嘻嘻

Year 2011

2011-12-21T20:49:00.001+08:00

It has been a good year for me, mainly my business got even better + got to know more solid people + got the love of my life (that I hope is the last!). After moving into New Den in Bukit Panjang with the Fry Household, I've gotten the habit of looking back the year at the end of each in this blog.

So here goes.

New Den

2nd year now + still not as good variety of sold food as in Boon Lay, but I love the environment here all the same. And the absolutely charming little girl next door who's often tormented by her older brother. I think she's 2 this year.

Back when we just moved in, she was just a baby in the arms. I cannot believe my eyes that kids these days grow so much in such a short time! Well, her folks are tall people, so I guess she grows longer faster. Hehehe.....

Sis goes back to Netherlands

For the man of her life, Mango Guy, and I lost a playmate. I only missed her alot after 3 months. Yeah, very delayed reaction, very typical of Fry.

I miss horsing around with her + being absolutely childish + the intellectual chatting + maybe most of all, her cooking. Well, make it 2nd most missed, I like horsing around more. Hehehe.....She said going out with me is like going out with a kid. I say she's reaping what she'd said.

She has Mango Guy now. MUAHAHA. MUAHAHAHA. MUAHAHAHAHA. =P

Baby God Daughter!

This bundle of joy is as what I calculated in the Zi Wei Dou Shu and an absolute darling. You all may have seen the occasional cute picture posted here and sometimes, I go back in my file picture to look at her again.

How her looks changed in the span of 8 months!

I missed 1 of the most important bit of her babyhood and she's now kinda forgotten this God Mama. That critical month was spent with Bee, whom I'll introduce again later.

Business was good

100% to 150% more than last year though in all truth, I didn't get to save that much. Money was spent in needed stuff and some rare spiritual collectibles, and to rescue my health after the Great Chicken Pox Run (where I'd named the Great Chickie Pox Run) last year.

This is also the year that I registered my business.

And I've decided to launch a new service to corporates next year, something I've tried + tested on this year's students that benefited them immensely, that I feel executives will welcome it to manage stress + increase productivity + boost physical health.

What's more, it's low cost + a money-back guarantee! I'll be the only player of this service with a money-back guarantee in S'pore, likely in Asia too.

Yes, I'm very confident of this new service indeed, 'cos it really worked. Heh.

Bee

The one who finally took a spot in my heart, and the one who softens me more than I can imagine.

The one blessed to me after throwing a checklist of attributes I want to the Above or I'd not accept anything less.

The one who gives me all the freedom I want and need + respect the job I'm in.

The one who smiles lovingly at me when I'm childish + corny.

The one who has lots of similar views regarding Life + living habits as me.

The one who helps me relax when I'm tensed up.

The one who is willing to 修炼 with me when so many other couples out there have issues over this = 1 wants to, and the other would not. And grumble or fight with them over it. This is 1 of the most important attribute I've thrown to the Above for making me accept a love relationship.

I enjoy solitude + happily single 90% of the time (10% when I was really bored that is rare), if I have to have a love relationship, then give me these, or I'd rather die, 'cos I want to do my job well.

Mike said I'm 1 lucky shit, 'cos Bee is older than me by 8 years but I'm the lead in the relationship. But mainly because Bee is neutral for most things in Life while I'm the more picky + fussy one, so I decide lah.

Having said that, Bee ain't a no-brainer. Far from it. It's just the easy-going bit at work, Bee has good opinions of many things in life, and definitely a living tongue of tastebuds. I'm also the 1 who pick Bee's chow when we dine out.

Now this has a root, Bee often chooses the more yucky ones for Beeself. LOL

Now Mike + sis + JL have told me not to bully Bee but I'm not a bully! I'm just a tad strong in my opinion sometimes + really enjoy some time-out on my own when I feel like it. I think the time-out bit is the result of enjoying solitude too much.

And being a workaholic, I tend to shut everyone out when I'm busy. If things are a tad more tacky to handle, I simply don't care if you're having a bad day now, I just go silent or leave a word that I need time-out to unwind. I'd only turn my head if there's physical damage.

But Bee's very very mild character changed me to be more considerate. I don't wanna bruise a delicate strawberry and I want to be fair since I'm given so so much. So I've turned out to be better than I think I can afford to in a relationship.

I've told Bee to let me know 1st hand if I've made things uncomfortable, "Love me, but don't ever spoil me. I don't ever want to be blind and spoil a good thing/relationship."

I've learnt even more things than I can imagine, and there're more to learn as time goes (how to keep the love going strong) + when we stay together (married or co-habiting couples would know) foreseen to be 2 years later.

I said this to Bee once......

"It's hard on you to be with me, my dear."
"No, it's not."

Bee is truly my better half. I don't think I can live with anyone else, or that anyone would tolerate me besides Bee.

=)))

Finding Love

2011-12-13T13:14:00.001+08:00

No, this isn't an entry on Bee again, though there'll be some references to our relationship.

I was reading Blinkymummy's blog post about disgruntled singles at finding a love partner for their life and I do agree with her views, though of course, they're abit blunt to point at the noses saying YOU DESERVE IT BECAUSE YOU LOOK AT THE WRONG WAY.

I'd like to share how I come about to a relationship now as part of reference for some of you singles out there. I don't want to preach but the below are my views.

A synopsis of my love journey for the past 33 years of my limited life.

I was on 1-night-stands before my 1st relationship.
That stemmed from a 1-night-stand too.
Things came fast + furious, passionate and hot.
We broke up and patch back every 3 months.
Finally, we ended it in about a year.
2nd relationship came from a singles chatting website.
Crashed after 3 months after a rather bizzare turn of event.
3rd relationship came from a friend known for 1 year who knows of my previous relationships.
Crashed after 3 months from polar views about love + relationship.
Single and happy for 4 years where I did felt for 2-3 people along the way.
But nothing blossom.
Current relationship is a student of mine, and 8 years older than me.
We're onto our 4th month (incl. courtship stage) as we speak.

In the 4 years of singlehood, I got know by some means that I have to learn what Love is all about, and I prayed that I be shown the right door for my 3 dead relationships caused quite a dent at my confidence about myself and towards Life.

On comes a Korean drama that I raved to my sister. I'm not a drama person, let alone Korean ones which I benchmarked to soapy Taiwanese ones. But this drama swept me off my feet, it's called 家门的荣光, or 가문의영광 or Family’s Honor.

Every married one in the clan got divorced overnight where their great-grand-father died. Drama enough? Then the start of a journey of finding themselves, reflecting on themselves THEN found their true love. I find sense in there, and I started doing that.

I reflected on myself and found how difficult I am to live with and started making plans for singlehood while still learning what love is all about on the way. My next case study would be my sis + her future husband, Mango Guy, of their dynamics and how they got together.

Then I look into my parents' tumultuous relationship for 34 years (and counting), and realised where my faults lie in. This is where my self-awareness starts as a poor love partner.

Then I look at my clients' cases as I go along and learn even more.

In addition, a past life regression done with my Teacher revealed even more truths to the failures in my ex-relationships that I swore myself off any love, so there's no chance of any mistake and starting another cycle.

I'd wanted to end it all. I've to learn what love is, and I've learnt it. So there you go, that's it. I don't want anything anymore.

Till I was persistently told that 1 of my Life Lessons is to accept a love relationship that I reluctantly accepted, threw a list of attributes I want in my other half to the Above, then sit back and see how things will unfold. I was very defiant, but I've submitted.

To cut the story short, I'm in a relationship now and things are good so far. I'm sure things will not be forever rosy but I'm prepared to learn and grow.

Love isn't an easy thing, yes, but it helps you to grow differently as a person. To learn how to live with another living human being in your life is very difficult. We have to look into differences of the daily habits, perceptions to things, personality, vision for the future, taste etc. It is something with alot of homework to do.

But it gives you new perspectives towards Living as a whole, it helps you see how others are living with empathy.

However, before having a reasonable love relationship (read = fairly peaceful and happy), you need to know your strengths and flaws as a person. You need to know what you are made of before opening up to Love, because you should get someone compatible to walk the miles with.

Honestly, I feel a compatible person is much more important than the initial fleeting passionate feelings towards the other party. Like what my brother said so well, "Love at 1st sight are for kids. There's no such thing as love at 1st sight, only lust at 1st sight."

At that point, I was quite attracted to someone after a 1st meeting and I thought that was wrong. But isn't there such thing as love at 1st sight? Bro's words gave a good club on my head and I sober up. After a while. Infatuation isn't easy to get over, you know.

I fell for my current love after the planets aligned in 1 afternoon tea. We were teacher-student in my I-Ching class and got to be friends from it. Another coincidence is that we live in the same area + the fact that we're both business owners = we've flexible time on our hands.

Prior to that, there was no sparks, no nothing. No anything.

It was that afternoon that I found another side to this person that made me curious to know more about, and that was what I did via our mutual friend who is the best friend for 30 years to Bee.

Now, testimonial from a best friend for 30 years is good enough, no? No.

I set off wanting to know more for myself, and got very attracted by Bee's personality and outlook of life. It was then that I decided to start the courtship and got to this stage, our 4th month. I know there will be lessons for us to learn in the road ahead and I'm ready. I'm willing to be for this special person who moved me by the personality and wisdom.

Not that so-called "love" that most movies, novels and drama serial made out to be and I find more stability and bliss in this one than my previous passionate but roller-coaster relationships that crashed and burnt.

No one likes such a life after having been thru what love is "supposed" to be.

We have a population of 7 billion in the world, discounting those that we would almost never fall for (criminals, insane etc) + those married + those who really want/need to be single (by religion or illnesses etc.), you have quite a few millions to look into whether you're gay or not.

But love works on a certain chemistry called the kismet, which, instead of saying this being controlled by God or Buddha or Jesus or Allah etc., I'd like to give a call to you to empower yourself. By starting the journey to understand yourself.

What and who you are.
Your strength and flaws, work on the flaws by self-awareness.
Your vision towards Life.

In the course of this self-discovery, be fair to yourself and the people out there. There's no perfect person but people who knows how to work on their flaws, what to live with and what not. And principles to stick to with flexibility in certain situations = don't cross the bottomline about Life.

Then work on finding the right person to fall in love with, not keep getting the wrong person. Passion can be easily created once love kicks in, you can ask your friends or search the net to hot things up.

But find the right person for it so your future of good memories erase the bad ones of the past.

Oh, and love don't come knocking at your door, like if you want to strike 4D or TOTO, you gotta get out of your house and queue for it. Or set up an online account for your bets. What I'm trying to say is, you need to put some effort to look for it and be seen, so your odds at knowing people and getting love increases.

Pun, but I think it's a lovely one.

=)

A Life Journey Of Mistakes

2011-12-12T13:24:00.004+08:00

I just read the story of music producer/film score writer Ricky Ho's interview on Straits Times. And then, a few pages down, a quote from Mr Lee Kuan Yew on his education system's policy mistake for languages.

Such coincidence.

And then I recalled the very happy picnic outing with Blur Ting, CH and Amy in Botanic Gardens yesterday evening, where we chatted plenty, of Life and its hits and misses.

And then, I thought back on this very word, "mistake".

I used to hate making mistakes in my youth, in the end, I made even more mistakes for having such myopic vision about Life. Life isn't about not making mistakes, even great spiritual Masters and I kid you not. Every single spiritual master have mistakes and regrets.

A great spiritual Master I follow made a prediction that his chosen disciples would have great spiritual achievements. 10 years down, some of them went wayward. His predictions are known to be 100% accurate, how could he make such a mistake?

But he did and we all do too.

Mistakes, I think, is a way to keep ourselves in check and balanced in Life. Starting a relationship with Bee was quite a journey to me, I'm afraid of making mistakes and wrong turns that send us down the ravine again.

But Bee wasn't worried of anything at all, without been in any previous relationship, there isn't any benchmark or precedent to anything right or wrong pertaining to a love relationship. And so, I'm often told not to think too much and just do the needful.

Ah, how blessed is one without baggage.

But in Life, somehow, we all would have baggage. And Bee has too, though not in the love relationship aspect. The only difference is the weight and size of it. And if we'd want to shed it as time goes. It's normal to mourn and marinate in our baggage, but to carry it forever would be sad.

Yes, it would leave a shadow in our heart because it happened and shedding it by denial is just repression. It would blow up again 1 fine day.

But mistakes are inevitable, it is only normal to have mistakes. However, the difference now lies in the agenda or motivation of it = intentional or not? Careless mistakes (for anything in Life) are intentional ones because you didn't put your heart and soul in the process = you don't intend it to go well = if it turns out wrong, it is your fault.

I think we all live and learn and we should have a learning heart till we expire on this Earth.

But once a mistake is done, don't cry over it too much or too long as said above. But please, learn it.

Like a mistake I did yesterday in the picnic. Happily enjoying the Moscato, Italian white and apple cider, I didn't know my gastric cannot accept them all at a seating so I felt sick and propelled every digested content into the foliage in the Botanic Gardens.

It was odd, for my alcohol threshold wasn't so bad in the past, it was just Moscato, an Italian white and apple cider. Blur Ting said it could be that I took them on an empty tummy.

Nevertheless, it was embarrassing as it was my first meeting with Amy, not a good impression to leave in someone. Blur Ting and CH saw me in such a state for the first time, so it wasn't that bad. It was around 8pm in the Gardens and most visitors have left the Shaw Foundation Symphony Stage area, I'm glad it was only us who caught this boo-boo.

But what was done was done, just learn it and move on.

No more 3 different types of alcohol in my system ever again. Heh.

The Case Of Last Year's Chickie Pox Run That Gave Ah Fry Heh-Guu....

2011-12-06T15:33:00.007+08:00

.....That I've never ever had in my life. =.=

No wonder bro have been bugging me to get vaccinated (but I didn't) till I experienced for myself in its full gory. I'm lucky that it didn't leave behind terrible scars 'cos a sudden inspiration hit my mind then, of applying sandalwood oil for skin issues and I happened to have pure sandalwood essential oil at home.

Ah Mi Toh Hood!

After the whole saga, my sinus came back where it had left me for about 10 years, and skin sensitivity that reacts to seafood and meat. I went to my dear Royal Doctor for about 1-2 months of TCM medication that it got controlled. The sinus came back again while the skin sensitivity is 95% gone.

It now only react on my skin when I'd a pig-out on meat + alcohol.

I thought all these would leave on its own after sometime = my body would build itself up as long as I'm careful about my diet. So I had organic vegetarian food at Fu Lu Shou often in bid to cleanse my body of toxin. The skin sensitivity may or may not have been helped by the organic food, but the sinus most definitely didn't improve.

It got worse in this tropical winter with the frequent rain and wind. I know my lungs got worse 'cos my breathing got heavy with obvious sound from the nose. Bee was alarmed 1 night in Cameron Highlands when I tried to sleep, my breathing got very loud that it seemed as if I'm gasping for breath.

Which in all honesty, I was. Till the warmth in the bed got built up that my body felt more comfortable that I can sleep.

I decided that time and traditional TCM (medicinal herbs, I mean) isn't going to heal my lungs when I tried to run 300m for cover on my way home 1 day shortly after the Cameron Highlands trip. I ended up wheezing for 1 hour + dizzy head, it was heh-guu. Or asthma.

** Before going Cameron Highlands, I've asked Royal Doctor of the right TCM supplement to take to help my situation and she suggested taking Lingzhi (Reshi mushroom). It did helped abit but not enough to see more solid results......

I sprang into action immediately, asking mom how sis was cured of her childhood asthma. Mom said it was pigeon broiled in Korean Ginseng slices. Luckily, we have some of the ginseng (though not the pigeon) at home at that moment and I got mom to make some with armm = rice gruel for me that evening.

I had the best sleep of the year after drinking that brew. Deep, uninterrupted and sweet.

You see, in this tropical winter, I've been waken daily at about dawn (5am - 6.30am) by sneezes and running nose where I've to blow them to clear the mucus before I can sleep again.

So 1 day, I was mooching about in Jurong Point that I passed by Yue Hwa where I was supposed to get Shanghai wonton skin for Bee for the wonton making session. I saw a corner selling Cheong Kwan Jang (正官庄) Korean ginseng and bought its powder.

I took for about a week with more improvement = no more itchy + sng-sng nose + even less nose blowing in the morning (like 2 tissue paper worth?) compared to taking lingzhi. I'm taking lingzhi + Korean ginseng powder daily for my lung as we speak.

Then a lunch with my Awesome Curry Neighbour at Karu's 1 day revealed her tough journey with her asthmatic son eons ago. The poor boy needed to be hospitalised at a young tender age that he coughed up blood in his asthmatic coughs. She heard of herbal crocodile meat soup from her mom (or was it neighbour?) and brewed for him for a few months.

He got cured and could even take part in sports competitions in later part of his life.

I sprang into action again 'cos I don't have childhood asthma = I most definitely don't deserve adulthood asthama for life + if my sister can be cured, then I MUST be cured.

I bought frozen crocodile meat from NTUC (expensive! $9.90 for 250gm! =.=) and combined the following herbs for a slow cooker brewing overnight, taking the soup for the next morning and dinner.

茯苓
石斛
淮山
陈皮
玉竹
北杏
枸杞子
北芪
党参
浙贝母

I've read of some TCM herbal formula for crocodile meat soup and realised that it can be varied for different purposes, so I came up with those with my limited TCM knowledge.

After taking that 2x of crocodile meat herbal soup, the effect is far better and stronger than taking Korean ginseng powder + lingzhi every morning. There isn't any nose blowing this morning at all though a slight gust of wind later in the morning made me sneeze once.

I think my lungs are so weak they need an extra kick to get things started.

Nevertheless, my body don't feel heaty throughout unlike my pre-chickenpox times where a sorethroat might come from taking some chocolate. I now can take a full glass of thick Milo without feeling a scratch.

I'll continue taking the Korean ginseng powder + lingzhi every morning and making that crocodile meat herbal soup weekly till I've fully recovered.

Anyone who stumble onto my blog looking for cures to asthama/wheezing, you are welcome to try all that I've tried for yourself or your kid.

=)

宝贝，给你。

2011-12-05T17:15:00.002+08:00

Ah Fry S'pore Association of Low Traffic Bloggers.....Gathering Time? WIDE GRIN

2011-12-05T15:56:00.003+08:00

Possible 1 weekend Saturday or Sunday at Blur Ting's? Where we play with Princess Kay + Rusty + feast + yak away the whole day?

I wanna remake that awesome pandan rice for you all! *WIDE GRIN*

Just realised I didn't put up the self-made recipe in Fry blog here = forgot liao! Rice, pandan leaves, cashew + wolfberries + tumeric powder (can take this out) + pinch of seasalt.....any others? Hmmm.....

Lai ah, talk here ah!

Bee + I

2011-12-05T10:21:00.000+08:00

I've sworn myself off any love relationship. I really did. And then a dream broke it.

And I said to the sky above, "I'm gonna see what you give me! I don't believe you can give me someone perfect!" And then I sat back.

It happened.

Like so many movies, drama serials, novels etc., my together with Bee was most unexpected. Even Bee's best friend, who is our mutual friend didn't expect it. Even us, Bee and I. We've never thought it would happen, we didn't ask for it. Everything started from teacher-student to friends. It was just that.

Bee is the source of inspiration to me in many ways. To be better. To work harder. To plan for us for the future. And never have I been so comfortable with someone that it scares me. Like, how could things be going so smooth? Why are we telepathic in just 2 months?

"You know, eventhough it's just abit over 2 months, it felt like we've been dating for a long time."
"Really? I felt the same too! Wow."

Why is it so easy?

There're many things that we're really different, yet in as many others that we're the same.

I love how simple Bee is towards many things in Life, that when I read a little too deep into something, I'm encouraged to keep it simple. Then I'm Bee's resource book, whenever more information towards things is needed, I'm the one to turn to.

And then, there're many more.

I cannot imagine that I still feel a little shy towards Bee whenever we meet up (Bee felt the same too) after the dating bit is firmed. I've never been such in my previous relationships. And I'm much more careful towards Bee than the past that I've been told to relax. Bee is such a dear.

Well, it's a tad hard for me not to be a tad uptight. I'm the first relationship in all of 41 years of Bee's life while I've mucked up 3 previously.....

In all honesty, Bee has many chances of a relationship in the past, but all never made it to the real dating stage. It's a big wonder, given the great personality that Bee has. But I guess this is kismet.

Whenever Bee's over my place for a short visit, I love to lie my head on the thigh, on my bed and enjoy moments of comforting silence together. The time I pop by Bee's to make wonton with the family, I'd the chance to rest on Bee's bed. It was 1 of the most comfortable bed I'd rested on so far and in no time, I went drowsy.

Bee was dealing with some work emails, where I beckoned over once it's all done. We lie on that very comfortable bed, looked into each other's eyes, giggled and smiled. It was sweet, fun and funny all at once. Like teenagers once again, though both of us have never had any relationship in our youth.

We may not have alot to talk over whenever we meet, but the thought of being in each other's company and sight is really comforting.

Bee is a very mild person, very benign, shy, soft-spoken and very grounded. I'm very passionate with alot of drive, easily excited, chatter up with everyone and jubilant. I'm very thankful for Bee's soft personality against mine, or I may over-drive everything and lead us all into another crash and burn.

Like last time.

I can dinner alone by the TV (we don't have family dinners at home) with my laptop on, just to MSN with Bee. And I'd be made to finish my dinner first. Bee simply drives me away and ignore me till I reply the MSN with, "Back! =D" 15-20 minutes later, then be checked if I've polished my plate clean. I'm always very honest.

Hehehe.....

Bee is also happy to see me chat with strangers or the service staff without jealousy, laughing along to my silly jokes with them. And sometimes, if there's a "nice picture" walking past, Bee would even alert me to watch. Such a wonderful dear.

It is such freedom in the relationship, with the level of maturity and that sometimes kiddish fun together that makes me feel very at ease with Bee. That I treasure Bee so much.

I'd start a morning smsing chain, then MSN if we're free from work enough for a chat. If not, we'd MSN at night till about 10.30pm where it's Bee's sleeptime. I'm a late sleeper, normally to meditate and read. I'm also a late morning person while Bee wakes up at 7am, despite running a business with 2 other brothers = technically your own boss.

I never thought I'd get to enjoy a relationship again this lifetime. I really thought I'd be happily single throughout. And much less someone who is so perfect for me at this point. I'm sure we will uncover more about each other in future, especially if/when we live together, so I want to make things work as much as possible now.

And Bee thinks the same too.

I don't think there's another one as good as Bee for me. I felt very blessed and thank the Above piously for this born-again chance. I'll do my utter best to make this relationship work.

And I wish all of those out there who hasn't such blessing to have someone so compatible and comfortable in life, to have it 1 day. To know what true happiness from love is like.

Namaste. =)

Dear Hu-仔

2011-11-28T12:24:00.002+08:00

Mom said you looked for me last night. I slept early these days 'cos I'm very tired from clearing work after the Cameron Highlands trip.

I think my energy level will resume after a few more days of good rest. Try catch me around 10pm S'pore time? Till then, ta. =)

老天会给机会的

2011-11-27T22:03:00.000+08:00

近来朋友的祝贺让我很安慰
和以前很不一样

第一段恋情之后
所有公布的恋情都遭抨击

当然
也不能够怪人家
我也不懂得什么是爱情

那么快就又谈恋爱
是值得怀疑的

那次周末去蜜蜂的家
见场面热热闹闹
手足们有说有笑

当时的我还觉得有些吵

反回来想
是我家不正常

父母不是冷战就是吵架
有的安乐日子很少
虽然比以前好很多
但还是不属于常有的天伦之乐

常年的战火
把我们姐弟妹们弄得不爱在家里互动说话

我自己也觉得安静比吵架强
或许就这样
而忘了天伦之乐的感觉

蜜蜂真是我生命里的奇迹

让我真正去操练这 4 年来学到的爱情理论
让我感觉什么是天伦之乐的温暖

蜜蜂常说我是情人眼里出西施
每次都称赞到天上去了
但你 30 年的朋友也打包票呀

总不可能是两个瞎子吧？

Mike 才担心我呢
叫我别欺负你

呵呵呵

密蜂说
哪天看到缺点
就不觉得好了

我说
缺点每个人都有
不要超过底线就行了

我的缺点也多
但因为我们两的习性相近
才没觉得是缺点

哈哈哈

想来真是可爱

两个人相处在一起
要相敬如宾才不会日久生厌
几年后就嚷嚷，“你以前不是这样的！”

有什么事坦诚地说出来讨论、商量
大家不要过度紧张
（当然，这点我得要注意一下，我比较容易紧张）

彼此有空间
大家坦诚
分享快乐、喜悦
互相帮助对方成长

这才是伴侣、夫妻之道

我父母的盲目和失败
我希望从此断绝

所以我希望蜜蜂爱我
但不溺爱我

帮我
而不是纵容我

提点我
而不是马上开火
（这点我最放心了，蜜蜂不是这种人）

我们以后的路很长
就因为长
所以不要吃苦

人生已难过
有了心爱的人就该加分、加蜜糖才是

何苦为难自己呢？

蜜蜂的自信比较少
也不懂得自己有多好
我的责任就是提点和鼓励

我容易紧张、顾虑太多、自己设陷阱绕圈圈
蜜蜂就提点我放慢脚步、放轻松

好在我们到目前为止
都很快醒悟和调整那些小小的疏漏
我很安慰和受到鼓舞

这代表我们走的方向还是正确的

接下来还会有不同的功课
只要坚持对的信念
我相信我们都会考到不错的成绩
日子越过越好

现在就是拼我们各自的生意
和让我们的家人都习惯对方的身影

一个人的时候
面对问题和挑战是一种考试的感觉
一种无可避免的常态
就学习和熬过去了

现在有了蜜蜂
见到你 MSN 上线就感觉松了一口气
想躲逃的心也安定了不少

是的
爱情的力量很大
不知道为什么

它是在我们低潮的时候
一个很好的后备发电机
不让我们倒下

世间上 10 个夫妻 9 个哀
我祝福诸位大家都有幸成长
而得到适合你们那对的人

阿弥陀佛

Dear Friends, For The Sake Of Your Happiness, Don't Be Like Her. We've Not Contacted For 15 Years + Come Up Now To Ask This.....

2011-11-24T18:39:00.006+08:00

We can see so much denial in her reply.....Please, my friends, lead a happy life.

Wedding Of The Century In The Fry Household!!

2011-11-22T10:39:00.000+08:00

Sis + Mango Guy are tying the knot!! Next October! Wedding banquet also in the same month!!

AAAAARRRRGGHHH ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ !!!

*runs around coconut tree hysterically*

I gotta zek my blackheads!
I gotta get new shoes!
Who shall I invite for the big day? --> Mike defo will kenna the bomb. Ahehehe.....
Shall I make cheongsam or get a gown?
Or rent one? --> 'cos technically, I won't wear it out of the wedding wor....
Who will do my makeup + hair that day?
Should I grow more hair on the head?
Do I need to lose some weight? --> bro says if I do cheongsam, I must not have tee-kah, "So you still have time." =_=
Should I go contact lens on that day? --> should hor, see-bak-gao wearing cheongsam/gown, tak-glam deh!
Anyfing I've left out?

OMG OMG OMG......

给老天的信

2011-11-17T09:52:00.002+08:00

老天，你好

这两个多月的神奇经历没让我忘了你
我要跟你说声 “谢谢”

虽然我还不知道为什么我得要接受爱情这一项
但现在的我很幸福

蜜蜂是完美的人选
也是你选出来给我的

我以前在爱情里受的苦
现在不必受了

当然
我们现在才两个月的交往和了解
不足以断定余生的路
但我想应该没错了

我讲究和亲人、好友的互动是坦诚的
因为我不喜欢骗人或有所保留

我的父母因为与我们三姐弟的差距甚多
所以有些事、生活上的点滴无法分享
但至少我与弟、妹们是可以坦诚的

我已经安慰

以前我最爱的人不能接受我的坦诚
很让我失望

但蜜蜂不带任何异样眼光的听我诉说、解释一切
我很感恩
极为感恩

你是最了解我适合、需要什么

老天
我再次由衷地感谢你

接下来的路
我希望你带领我和蜜蜂一天比一天更好
让我们都上进、成长、增加智慧

为自己、家人、社区、国家、人类贡献
为你服务

请你加持我们
我们的健康、生意、家人、感情

在爱的当中学习而得到真理

现在的我即便幸福、快乐
我没一刻忘记自己的使命
这是一个不容易的使命

请你加持我一直往前进
不断得到良好的学习、益友、导师

感谢你逼我的一切
搭救我的一切
督促我的一切
引导我的一切

我臣服于你
你是对的

毗卢遮那佛

感恩的心
Ah Fry 上

宝贝，蜜蜂宝贝，这首歌是给你的 =)))

2011-11-16T23:01:00.001+08:00

可是 key 太高了，我唱不到。LOL

什么是爱？

2011-11-16T16:26:00.001+08:00

它是什么样的东西？
为什么会让我们人类那么着迷？
那么的付出？
也会那么的心碎？

我喜欢上蜜蜂

因为个性好
因为声音细柔
因为习性接近
因为我被给与很大的空间和自由
因为我没被要求什么

就这些？
就让我爱上蜜蜂？

让我更努力比以前的我更好？
让我开始安排我们的未来？
让我为密蜂花钱不心痛？

是什么道理？
我想不通

为什么当我决定全心全意为大家服务时
老天要我恋爱？

儿女私情不是小爱吗？
大爱不是更重要吗？

我不了解这背后的意义
但我很想知道

爱上蜜蜂是我的荣幸
被接受是一份恩宠

我现在很快乐
乐得很神奇

好像从未有过的解放
好像雨天也不那么糟糕
好像困在堵住的交通也 ok
好像老妈子煮不好吃的晚餐也不打紧

为什么恋爱给人那么神奇的力量和肚量？
让人不畏惧生活的烦琐和障碍？

我百思不得其解
佛经上也没说

天呀
有谁可以给我答案吗？

Dearie Hu-仔

2011-11-16T09:25:00.003+08:00

If you're coming back in January, help me get 1 or 2 winter wear, yes? Size like local dude's S-size, if Europe ladies' L-size is like our local dude's S, please get that for me. Shoulder issue.

Donch wanna dude's wear.

Fank kiew yiew! *WIDE GRIN*

蜜蜂，给你的信

2011-11-15T05:18:00.004+08:00

中午和你在 Mos Burger 点的茶
看到是英式早餐茶
心里就感觉糟糕了（咖啡因比较多）

果然没错
睡到 3 点多
做了两个梦就醒了

醒了要睡回去
但似乎很清醒
就到窗口看看这幽静的晚景

想了想我们今天的谈话
心里又盘旋了一些想法

择日不如撞日好
就起来启动电脑写了

今天我们聊的就是在 MSN 上我对你的表白的一些点

但最主要的是
我想知道你为什么会喜欢、接受和我在一起
因为再怎么说
你和我在一起会有些困难、障碍

难道你没考虑过吗？

听完之后
罪恶感又升起

你那么好的一个人给我独占
好像没天理

我凭什么？
凭什么拥有你？

那时知道我得要经历一场恋爱的时候
我向老天抛掷一个清单

“有本事就给我这样完美的人！我就接受！”
而你半年后出现了

除了臣服老天的威力
我开始有打退堂鼓的感觉

在我们中午的谈话里
我又再强调

你如果一天要去结婚、生子的话
我是百分百鼓励和松手的
而且会给你满满的祝福和帮助

你以一贯的笑容、温雅的声音
外加一点点地不快问我
“为什么你很喜欢把我推走？”

今天的下午茶让我铁定了我爱你

但在这之余
我不懂要如何爱你

在我们还没开始前
你就给了我很多

启发我更发觉、反省自己
启发我更努力改变自己
和你在一起很快乐又没有压力
我们的喜好、习性很相近
你也对我的过去没意见
对我个人也没要求

你人品好
节俭、随和、温和、不多话
对很多日常的事物没太多意见
乐观、智慧、礼貌、知书达理
种种种种

那我能给你什么呢？
我是什么东西？
这让我懊恼

对于爱情
我没有梦
我知道我的要求很高
世面上符合我条件的人寥寥无几

所以我没有梦
也不期待什么

抛给老天的清单不过是个挑战
我不过是坐着看会有什么结果而已

但你还是出现了

不可能
那怎么可能
而你还接受了我

太荒唐了吧！

Fringe 最新的剧集里
该集的故事主人流着泪说了一句话

“我老婆给了我很多，我不懂要如何报答她，我只能够这么做！”

当时我眼眶瞬间积出泪水来
我知道他在说什么

这 4 年的单身日子里
我知道我不了解什么是爱
就搜索它的意义

从《家门的荣光》的第一课
下来就是客户的婚姻、爱情问题
然后回想我父母失败（但没离婚）的关系
和一些其他成功的婚姻
最后就是我妹妹现在的恋情路程

累积知识不代表我领悟了
但至少我在心里有个谱

到你来临的时候
那些理论就如暴发的烟花
挥洒耀眼的光芒和异彩

学到了
我学到了
但你这份礼物太大了
我怕我承受不起

因为你对生命、生活无要求
我就没得在物质上给你多点

送给你的两次的礼物
你今天就问我
“你很喜欢送礼哦，那我该礼尚往来吗？”

又让我愕然

不过一株向日葵和一个粉晶莲花雕刻
不贵的东西
就是很喜欢送礼了？

我当时的回答是
“我不随便送礼的。因为我个性孤寒。”
说着的时候
头是低下来的

是的
我习惯接收礼物、被人请客吃大餐
习惯被人拥护、让人欢迎
犯错有人放水让我逃之夭夭
别人照顾我多过我照顾人

我不是个送礼的人
我是个收礼物的

但遇到你这个可能是我这辈子最大的礼物时
我措手不及
我怕我不懂得付出、爱护

你读到我写下不久的基金会想法和立遗嘱的 blog
你不怎么开心我那么快就提到死
你也说你没想过要靠我养

当时我不是很懂得解释
这是我对你的心意
我想以我最大的了解来对你好

如果还有更好的方法
我都会去做

我不知道要如何爱你
因为你对我、对世界和社会豪无要求

今天在 Mos Burger
你还叫我看一个路过的　“美景”
也不止一次是这样了

天呀

你给我那么大的空间和自由
我反而不懂得如何跑
不懂得如何飞翔

当然
我不是希望你开始使坏

但.....

我想你和诸位读者明白我的意思

因为你太好了
我就开始怕了

就好像《家门的荣光》里的康石和丹雅

我虽然是浪子回头
但碰到你
再照照镜子、点算自己的一切

我好像山贼夺到了世间宝一样

你就是一个这么的一个宝
所以我很喜欢叫你宝贝

但你觉得肉麻的要死
要求我不要天天叫

天啊

我是积了什么功德、阴德！

I Lurve You Too, Rusty ~ ~ kiss on head + WIDE GRIN

2011-11-14T09:52:00.001+08:00

蜜蜂，给你的信

2011-11-13T10:54:00.002+08:00

本来还没那么早要写这篇
还想要多搜索资料才写的

但正好今天英文报讲到基金会
我就不必再找资料
择日不如撞日
现在就写这一篇吧

那天
我在 MSN 上对你表白
就被问到
“那么笃定吗？”

我那时候的回答是
“时间可以证明一切，现在说没有用。”

我相信我应该不会碰到比你更好的人
遇到你后的种种迹象也显示你是那对的人
所以我就开始计划了

还未表白前
我心里已经盘算好一切

有没有发展
我都会以你为本来照顾你

在我 35-36 岁买下第一个房子时
我将到律师楼立遗嘱
设立基金会
把我所有动产、不动产全分配好

给我的弟妹、父母（如果我早逝的话）
还有蜜蜂你

基本上是这样的

我越早逝的话
财产将分配给你的越多
因为少一个收入和照料就是个负担
我要减轻你的负担

我弟、妹都是高等专业人士
月入都不错
奉养老爸、老妈子都会没问题
我留钱给他们除了是孝心外
给弟、妹们的是一种爱的体现

因为我爱我弟、妹多过我父母
他/她们比较了解我

如果万一我 60 岁走了
你就是差不多 70 了
我很有可能安排你入住当时本地其中最好的养老院

你的朋友很少
也不擅交际
如果我走得比你早的话
你的起居饮食就是我的一个顾虑
所以养老院可能是最佳选择

但如果到时有个有缘的年轻人与我们结交
我很欢迎他/她入住房子里来照料你

我会每个月给你相等于现在物价、生活水平的 $2,000
你有自己的小房子收租
自己也消费不高
这月入足够了

如果你得入住养老院
一切开销就由基金会承担
外加每个月给你 $500 零用

一切有关你的后事安排也由基金会负责

到时
我相信我会有一、两个贴心的徒弟
他/她们会帮忙料理你的生活
我也会在遗嘱里拨些款给他/她们
当成心意

我妹子将来应该不会在新加坡居住
大家就少了照应了

我弟弟的应该会留在这里
到时就看我和他家人的感情如何
看是否可以帮忙照应你

你的手足感情不错
其中的侄子、女不知和你感情如何
但就算好
多些人来往总好过少

人方面我也会安排的

见的例子多
少年穷不算什么
老来苦就很凄凉了
我会尽力把我们的晚年安排好

尤其是你的
因为你朋友少也不善交际

留钱
钱不会自动料理自己
都需要人来启动作用
所以网罗对的人来帮你用钱极为重要

我比较古灵精怪
也善交际
想的东西也比较深
如果你走得比我早
我这边厢是无需担心的

到时
基金会在你我人间报销过后还有存款
就分配给慈善组织好了
最后这一部分最容易安排

想到这里
我就安心了

呵呵呵

这就是我爱你的行动力
花言巧语
我知道我在行
所以会让你对我的信心减分

所以以行动来证明一切才是实际

=)

Dearie Dearie Hu-仔 Sis....

2011-11-12T22:38:00.001+08:00

Bee accepted me! We is dating!! WOOHOO!!

I'm in bliss. Please wake me up from it. =P

By the way, Bee laughed at me for being so easily excited + anxious. Hahahahahahahahahahahaha......

Hu-仔！Emew Sent To Your Private Address Oredi!

2011-11-08T18:42:00.002+08:00

Gam-siah many many! *WIDE GRIN*

Ah Fry's Findings On Happiness

2011-11-04T15:02:00.007+08:00

The reply to Khaw Boon Wan by a Bhutanese (sic?) = http://www.passudiary.com/2011/10/to-mr-khaw-boon-wan-what-did-you-expect.html

You know, in the not-so-distant past when I was in my corporate incarnation, I'd be inclined to side with Khaw. But not so now, with the people I met + the various stories I've heard. And especially recently where I've taken a liking to someone I'd call Bee here.

From my uncle who had nose cancer and got saved by a copious amount of money (our cousin is a multi-million dollar oil trader who spared no effort + connections to treat her great father), then now living with side effects of the medications pumped into his body to fight the cancer cells. He has running nose whenever he eats, and sometimes live with nose bleeds. He's reduced to a frail looking, thin man from the booming voice one.

And maybe more side effects that I don't know.

That was when I'm even more resolved to reject treatment if I've 2nd stage cancer, let me get my insurance payout and enjoy what I have with my loved ones or alone travelling where I like. Then die in a place where I enjoy. No, I don't enjoy hearing my dear siblings cry their eyes out at my death bed. Or if my parents are still around, shed their tears for a daughter whom they don't really love.

I'm sure my folks would bawl their eyes out too, if I'm to leave earlier than them as I'm their daughter, but I don't understand how one would treat their flesh and blood with disdain then sob themselves to death when things happen. I'm also sure that my folks won't be the last people doing such on Earth. There're so many such husband-wives, siblings, parent-child dynamics in the world.

I never restrain my love for anything I truly love, I believe in loving, but I know the perils of loving wrongly and ignorantly.

When I got my dear hamster, Hamie, years ago, I know that her lifespan would be short. So every moment that I spent with her are full of love that I enjoyed thoroughly. When Hamie died, I sent her off with a tearing mom and a very sad bro. Mom asked if I was sad since I love her so much. I replied, of course I do. Then why didn't you cry? She asked.

'Cos my every moment spent with her is full of love and enjoyment.

From disciplining (she bites when just new to our household, punishment = no attention on her for a day + no veggie treats + strong words at her = she stopped!) to bathing to giving her treats, all of them are done out of love. I wonder how many of our fellow human beings can achieve this with their kids/spouse/parents at all.

Khaw has no idea that when farmers worry for the next harvest, city people worry of being out of job too. What's the difference? None at all.

You go get a new job, they re-plant again. They worry if there'd be buyers for their harvest, we worry if we get a new job before our savings run dry.

Difference? None. We all worry over our bread and butter, of illnesses, of our family happiness, of tomorrow, of the country and economy.

A great difference I find is, city people whine alot when they have children, while country people take it as it is and do their best. City people whine of expensive things, children who are not perfect (throwing tantrums etc.) while they don't reflect on themselves.

City people lack lots of self-reflections, is what I find.

When I stood resolved to live a life of single hood, I made myself to reflect on my words and actions every now and then so I don't stop growing. I want to make sure I don't grow old to be an unhappy old gramp that no one likes. Or well, most dislike.

In an afternoon tea with a client, where we exchanged thoughts about life, she asked if I'm looking out for a relationship. I firmly (with a tinge of pride) said no, and that I enjoyed my single hood alot, which I said all in truth and honesty. She smirked and cheekily said, "Never say never! That was what I did and I'm now married with 2 kids. Hahahahahahahhaha......."

Normally, I'd laugh off with such canned reply, but at that moment, something in my heart dropped, and felt a certain grim. I cannot explain why but it just came, a "Oh no." just popped up in my heart.

And about 1 month later. I found Bee.

Well, in all honesty, it was Bee who found me.

Bee is someone very unlike those I've seen around, so much so that when I described to sis, she questioned, "Are you sure Bee is human?" To which we laughed. Then sis bugged me to let her tag along in our bus trip to lunch 1 day (same route) so she can see Bee. Sis feedback was that Bee is very boring.

Ah, but you do not know Bee. And me.

I cherish the person that Bee is, my heart is calm and composed with such personality for I'm easily excited and jubilant. Whenever I share a thought, Bee would calmly dissect for me to mull over. Chatter isn't excessive and silence is treasured, I'm often given smiles more than banter, though I do admit that sometimes, I wished Bee would be more fun.

But out of that, I'm more than glad to have found Bee. I know for the fact that I'll almost never have to endure sharp noises with Bee, which is so rare in the breed these days, I thank my lucky stars for this gift that I've never asked for.

Truth be told, Bee and I are not officially together as of now, but things looks rosy at foresight. If Bee ever rejects furthering beyond friendship, I'm just as glad to stay status quo for life. I'm not those who reject friendship if love do not blossom, I'm not stupid to let a good person go by just like that.

I've seen many silly people on such flight mode, and I'm glad I'm not one of them.

Older than me by 8 years old, I've made up my mind to stand by till Bee's expiry on Earth. I'll take care of all the daily routine and if Bee decides to get married and have kids, I'm more than happy to chip in my effort to help out.

Those are stuff I wasn't willing to commit into in my earlier relationship days, and frankly, I don't know why. Except to say that those people are not right for me, and I'm not good enough to attract a right person into my life.

I've always don't understand why people would make someone they love unhappy. If you really like this person, you want them to be happy, no? If they want to leave you, you'd let them go, no? Love is something for a very big heart, it's not infatuation. I think my love relationships last time were infatuations. Infatuations are wrong.

Bee let me realised that I don't need a 5-room flat to be happy, I now can live with a 4-room flat comes 35 years old. Bee let me realised that a really simple life can be really happy. However, it doesn't mean that I'm no longer going forward. On the contrary, I now have a bigger space to run in because I'm not expected to hit any target.

Bee also let me realised that with love, alot of things don't matter. Like intimacy, though I admit that it's a spark plug to keep the passion going.

But I realised true love go beyond that, it's actually comfortable companionship that walks 2 person the miles they need till the end of their lives. And I accept that.

My ex-relationships would never believe their eyes if they read this. Ha.

I never thought I'd be in love again. Now I'm not speaking with a hint of resentment, no. I just thought I'm just not suitable to be with another one, given my temper and how my rationality for things on Earth goes. I'm happy single, intellectually and spiritually fulfilling as a single, and in some aspect, I'm fearful of a love relationship given how I've failed in my past 3.

But Bee is really special. Remembers all that I've said and taught (very surprised at that, I think I'm the one being pursued, LOL), voice out calmly if there's another way of viewing things, very easy-going as long as things are ok. I don't feel the stress with Bee at all. None.

With all these, I started to change myself, and Bee told me not to change for anyone. And I said in my heart......

I don't change for you, I change because of you.

Of course, as we're not "confirmed" yet, I don't voice that out, I just reply, "It's all the same." Heh.

Come 1 day, in a suitable time and place, I'll let Bee know all these. And I've prep myself for rejection too. =)))

Hu-仔, Emew Me Your Address.....

2011-11-03T23:31:00.000+08:00

I wanna mail you the lingzhi. *WIDE GRIN*

My Exact Thoughts.....Though I Don't Dream Of Bee Every Night Lah. Of Course, I'm Not An Infatuated Youth Anymore =)))

2011-10-31T16:15:00.000+08:00

给蜜蜂的一封信

2011-10-30T23:42:00.004+08:00

蜜蜂

这些话想说已有时日
但不知如何开始
就搁着

今天在你家聊的时候有些发觉
就觉得是时候了

不知道是谁先发现谁的
但我在开始对你产生好奇的时候
是因为觉得你好像在注意我的动态和想法

开始和你有多些互动时
发觉你是个很奇特的人

温文尔雅
随和
不多话但思维很快
说的话挺有智慧的

或许是我们 8 岁的差别
你看待事物带着比较多的耐性和包容

现在有很多想说的
但都 all over the places
很难捉住填在这网路格子里

我不懂什么是爱
我是从真正认识你而发觉到的
可我们现在也没开始到

我以前是狩猎者
“我看到，所以我征服”
是我很自豪的
就算是我的举动使到陌生人开心也是我的胜利

我自私、吝啬、不体恤
我也不愿意为我以前的恋情承诺永远

原来以前的人都不是对的人
碰到你
我觉得对了

因为以前会介意的东西
我现在都不介意了

愿意奉献、耐心、包容、体恤、学习
这些在我的过去的恋情里都不曾有过

之前
我很不明白为什么 G 师父一直执意我接受一段恋情
因为我根本不想

我不想和另一个人分享我的生命
我不想浪费时间和情绪
我也不畏惧寂寞与孤独
也担心影响我的修行

要恋情来做什么？
到最后
口袋还宽松呢

有本事
给我一个符合我所有条件的人！
是我的对他的忤逆

事隔不久
就遇到了你

从你身上
我看到自己很多的不足
（当然，你看我的时候，你自己也觉得很多的不足。但这是后话了。哈哈哈）

我发觉我肯开始用心了
而这
是因你记得我大部分说过的话
我却不记得很多东西

这不过其一

KJ 现在是我的爱情顾问
我会好好学习
给你最大的空间
不要把狩猎的心态用在你身上

她叫我用心来看你的眼睛
来接收你心里的讯息

这就难了
4 年没谈过恋爱
已经忘了不要去猜的去感受

有时候我们在 MSN 上的谈话
似乎你在引导我什么
但我又不懂那是否我想的那样
就避重就轻了

如果让你吐血了
请多多原谅

我是个慢 3 拍的人
清楚的对我说
好吗？

找到对的时机
我会认真地对你说

我会和你走完这辈子
无论你怎样我都支持你

祝，
泰安

Ah Fry 上

师父前后

2011-10-23T01:37:00.004+08:00

师父花两年的时间引蛇（我）出洞
再花两年的时间恢复我万劫的记忆、功课
又花一年的时间把我赶出门外

今年的体会、体验感触良多
虽说这过程起起伏伏
但很圆满

当师父说不再教我这个烂徒弟的时候
殊不知他已在准备我上不同以往的课堂
那时我一把鼻涕、一把泪的
伤心得不得了

我们不是好不容易又重逢了吗？
怎么又把我轰出去了？

有一次我厚着脸皮
冒着 “生命” 危险给他又在无端臭骂一次的走入他的办公室
师父抽着烟
看也不看我一眼
说
“我已经把所有的教你了。走吧。”

心又碎了一次

开始很慌张
没师父指导该怎么办？
碰到谜团怎么办？
师父仙游的话我可否送他最后一程？

很多盘旋在脑海里

偷偷问师母如何
她只能够说
“我没办法。他的 pattern 是这样的。”

真的是一个人了
硬着头皮自己闯了

当然
间中也有 Malachite Guy 在旁稍加提点
也有 A 偶尔客串一下
但都不比师父来的深和老练

毕竟
Malachite Guy 和 A 都给师父操练过
论辈分的话
是师兄、师姐给我这个小师妹提灯笼
照照暗路

师父早前说得没错
我和别人走的路不一样

还没认识师父前
是个离经叛道的年轻人
认识师父以后也是一样

我念书、上课的时候
不爱读课本
喜欢看那些课外有的没的的书
所以图书馆在那时候是我的密友

以前有一次
师父给我一堆书读
我只挑一些合眼的看

被师父轰出来的时候
不知道哪里找资料
就开始读经文

但还是不离离经叛道的本色
本地家喻户晓的经文都不碰
专挑没什么听过的

慢慢有些启发
但第二次绽放异彩的时候
就是碰到南怀瑾的著作

现在在慢慢读他的《金刚经说什么》

慢慢
是因为经验告诉了我
我不能从第一页读到最后一页
会很难吸收和深切的领略其中精华

一定要跳着读
而且不能每天读
感觉时间对了才来翻一翻才有收获

刚才读到一段
才充分领略到师父苦心栽培的举动

一位禅师在帮另一位未来高僧开悟
方法很独特
差点把人淹死
那未来高僧就大彻大悟了

普通人会不明白
教人需要用非常手段吗？

当然不需要
但有些人没这样
就不能开眼呀

师父不狠心把我轰出来
我会自己自发发奋图强学习吗？

根本不会

因为我天生爱犯懒
以前读书的时候
测验成绩从高分一直往下滑
不是因为越来越难考（虽也是其一）
而是我越来越闷了
没心思专心

可还是每年过关顺利升上去
每天在校园里游戏人间
和我的粉丝团瞎闹
晚上不做功课的写歌词

** 那 300 首歌词本子几年前全丢得一干二净。我做人的中指是，当不要的时候就彻底不要。

人
是需要适当的兴奋剂来催发潜力的
我就是个例子

而近来因为蜜蜂的出现
又让我开了一个古老未曾开启的窍
我很感恩这个奇特的恩赐出现在我的生命里

老天很明白如何让我开窍
就让缘分带领我走上道

虽然 33 年的路途峰回路转
间中有些些辛苦
但现在回头看来是很值得的

谁叫我皮痒
喜欢被折腾呀

哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈！！

蜜蜂前后

2011-10-22T01:46:00.004+08:00

之前说过一号新人物出现在我的生命里
今天见到好友在爱情的盘丝洞中遭殃
感触良多

当人一直与朽木为伍
见到豺狼就自然觉得不错
也就不舍得放下

但两个都是瘟神
前后两遭殃
分别在哪里？

痛
是一个病
因为有些人痛久了就把它当成习惯
而与其为友

很多人看了我这么写会笑
殊不知自己也是这等人

人生是不断的过关斩将
不断的学习
我自不敢说自己怎么样好
因为那是唬人的把戏

都学成了
自然成佛
还用得着在红尘中耗吗？

哈

爱情这一关很难过
师父和我做的回溯就一目了然

我伤人
人伤我
我玩人
人玩我

一切公平得很
是自己知不知道罢了

当我在喊着单身的旗号时
我深切地明白自己的诸多弊病
所以我不想累人累己
然后让自己的日子过得很充实

看书
思考
听别人的故事
学新的东西

当中也不断反省自己
因为没有亲密伙伴就等于少了一面镜子

那面镜子就是个照妖镜
照自己内在的心魔把戏
透射出如何自己折磨自己
然后如何折磨自己的亲密伙伴

所以 10 个夫妻 9 个哀的例子很多

说起蜜蜂

和妹子谈起此人时
她就笑道
“Are you sure this is a human being?”
你确定你说的是人类吗？

哈哈哈

就是一个那么奇特的人物

蜜蜂除了卖相比较不佳之外
那心是接近完美的

当然
大家相处才 6 个月
还不足以下任何定论

但蜜蜂的几十年好友拍胸口、打包票
是如假包换的好人
我才放多些信心在蜜蜂上

打动了
是打动了

但蜜蜂未必会喜欢我（据说，几率超低）
虽然大家现在是好友

为了这友谊
我可以撇下凡夫情感
我可以把自己的感觉搁在一边

试问这世间好人难寻
如果为了那自私的爱情而失去个那么好人的朋友
折福的人是我
不是蜜蜂

反正大半辈子也没我这号人物在生命里
多一个不多、少一个不少

我自认福报低
所以更不要失去这个难能可贵的朋友

所以我在 Plurk 里大声地言明
我现在虽单身
但心有所属
也就不等于单身了

守候在蜜蜂旁为知己是一份荣幸
这世界上有多少人能让你的心跳平平稳稳的呢？

情绪激动、热情如火的不少吧？
去几天夜店就知道了

打扮得好些呢
就一堆狂蜂浪蝶在身边周旋着
嘴巴花一点的、头脑灵精古怪的
也是一堆狂蜂浪蝶慕名而来

我蒙得上天恩宠
天生口才不错
要的话
嘴巴甜如蜜
3 岁到 80 的
男男女女的
一律给我哄得一阵晕浪

以前荒唐的日子里
很多都玩过了
锁定目标的话
不出 3 次会面就到手

哈

浪子回头
这些过往了才知道什么是琼华京梦
才知道什么是实
什么是虚

所以近来的两起狂蜂浪蝶扑过来
我就拒于千里之外

开头还有些可惜
但事后过了一些日子
才知道我的抉择是对的

论人品
都比蜜蜂相差不知多少个光年
虽然论卖相
蜜蜂是不及那两个

但钻石的前生是丑陋的黑石

钻石是永恒的
而花朵必定凋谢

磨钻石是艰难的
要摘花
路边、公园就一大把
是看你有没有本事玩而已

说得那么浮夸
因为我以前玩过
就是过来人才讲得出来

但现在不玩了
不实在

和钻石为伍好些
就因为质地好而价值高

这世界上有什么花是价值千万的吗？
没有
不就对了？

诸位可能会问
或许碰到一个比蜜蜂好的人物
也喜欢我的
如何？

哈哈哈

有再说吧
我是随缘地

反正我现在是不单身的单身就对了

任何狂蜂浪蝶有本事动摇我的话
那是我的修炼糟
道行低

一切与蜜蜂无关

当然
如果蜜蜂的人品下降的话
那就不关我事了

可说真的
40 年了都是这样的人品
会下降的话就一定是发生什么大事了

我更要在蜜蜂身边出一臂之力

不然就不是朋友

Cheeky Fry Strikes Back. Heeeee ~ ~ ~ YAH! WIDE GRIN

2011-10-21T00:23:00.002+08:00

What I'd Say To Youngsters, Now That I'm At The Ripe Old Age Of 33

2011-10-20T12:18:00.001+08:00

Don't make the mistakes I made, I shouldn't have listened to my folks.

1. Make many friends in school = they often last longer and more true than friends made in working era. Not referring to bad friends hor.

2. Ditto above for NS dudes.

3. Make teachers love and hate you = heng I did that = they'd never ever forget you. There's no hate but love after graduation, trust me.

4. Play truants with your friends to lar-teh, have fun, eat together. Not to beat up neighbouring school kids. I only took it up in Pre-U. Poor learning stage = I got caught 2x + rest of the gang scotted off. Qiu-doh lao-gao suaah. Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha........

5. Join uniformed group CCAs or sports ones, even better friendship.

6. Achieve only 70% percentile of your grades, spend the rest of the energy having fun + make friends. Grades matter little in this current world of graduates. Anyhow throw a stone = Masters or MBA or Bachelor. A headstart in life is soft skills.

7. Go camping with friends overnight. But dudes + dudettes apart ah.

8. Be part of the grapevine = learning ground to gather info at the pantry in working life. I kid you not!

9. Keep in close contact with them friends after graduation.

10. Always forgive your school-life enemies, work-life ones then are scary.

小燕之夜与蔡康永

2011-10-17T15:56:00.005+08:00

偶然发现到这个节目
就在闲暇时捉些喜欢艺人的来看

多数看的是资深艺人的访谈
除了因为自己的年龄（熟悉嘛）
也是因为资深艺人世面见得多了
内练了
没必要造作

有些是因为江湖地位而好奇
今天看的就是蔡康永
而大部分主题讲的是人生
我看了有许多感慨
因为想到自己了

我在家里从小是离经叛道的少年
不爱读书
更不听父母的话

弟妹上大学
而且还是优异生
一个医生
一个博士
也就是两个医生

而我们的父母是草根人物
没背景
没财力
更没人脉

而我什么都不是
19 岁出来打工
打了十几年也没什么成绩

一度很沮丧的想轻生
最后自己拉回来了就转运了
3 年内
月入 8 级跳到 5-位数

然后因为 08 年的大股灾放下正职做现在这行

蔡康永和小燕姐的在这个节目的结论是一样的
年轻人要多经历、多学东西
奠基、垫底
以后的路才不会难走

说得真好

回头看家里两老
除了工作、家务
30 年来什么也不做、也不学
现在老来什么也不懂
只会向对方或自己开火

这负面教材于我来说
意义深刻
从小不听他们的话是对的

我可以不懂得骑脚车、不懂得游泳
因为要的话
随时可以花钱学
或请朋友操刀帮帮忙

但心灵真的不能空虚
一怠惰下来
那情绪就发霉散播霉菌
毒害自己和他人

阴功呀

所以做人一定要有某个程度的好奇心
或好学心
这样日子才容易过

单身也好
有伴也好
才会有空间、有话题
要聊也聊得上
要一起玩也有新鲜感

而讲到感情
近来发掘到新一号人物
此人原来在我身边转了有些时日

我是呆头鹅
近来才发觉

慢慢对这人有好感
但不知对方是否与我有相同的感觉

都说了
我是呆头鹅
感觉讯号特迟钝的

但大家现在是好友

我曾想了一个晚上
决定了

即便咱们是一辈子的朋友
我将一辈子和这人在一起照应
不会舍弃

我烧饭就咱两一块儿吃
生病了就带着去看医生
我比此人年少将近 10 岁
一定要考虑好好的

是的
我考虑好了
很慎重的想过了

我是风的族民
热爱自由
下这个决定很严重
但可想而知
这号人物是很奇特的让我改变想法

是呀
和我以前的单身主义有很大的反差
这过程又让我学到很多东西

当自己的心真正历练过了
反省过了
回顾好了
痛改前非了

新的路就出现了

啊
宇宙之道
你是伟大的

毗卢遮那佛

You Have To Watch It Till The End. Come On, Just A Bit Of Patience Niah Lah, Ok? YOU WILL LIKE IT WIDE GRIN

2011-10-16T10:09:00.001+08:00

Yes, Yes, I Know, I Know. I Boh-Liao. WIDE GRIN

2011-10-13T23:12:00.001+08:00

最喜欢黄大炜的歌，是这个。Mike 也挺喜欢这个的

2011-10-12T18:06:00.000+08:00

在那时空，我们耍帅、耍恨、耍浪漫，爱漂亮，爱胡闹，也都难得的糊涂。少年真好。嘿。

2011-10-11T23:43:00.002+08:00

是的。=)))

2011-10-11T17:45:00.001+08:00

那年夏天的我们很快乐，很无知。对世界不怎么了解，念书也不怎么好，但都是不错的年轻人..... =)))

2011-10-11T17:06:00.001+08:00

We May Have A National Gymnast In The Making! WIDE GRIN Or Maybe Dancer. Lia-Lia Wants Her To Learn Ballet. Or Was It Dancing? Guppy-Memory Godmama Forgot. =P

2011-10-10T21:27:00.000+08:00

Basics Are Important, Not Those Wise Words Of The Sages. Also My Life Experiences So Far. 基本都做不好，讲圣贤话不过是在风花雪月、虚无缥缈的欺骗自己和大家

2011-10-10T11:54:00.000+08:00

Sis! 3rd Draft Toss Over Oredi!

2011-10-05T22:15:00.002+08:00

多多指教！*WIDE GRIN*

I've Always Thought Those Things About iPhone Auto-Correct Were Embellished. Not Anymore.....

2011-10-05T14:23:00.000+08:00

Hu-仔！Hu-仔！This One Also Very Swee! Ok, Is My Fave Auntie Zhen Ni Song Lah..... WIDE GRIN 老萧 Got Sing In There!

2011-10-03T22:15:00.001+08:00

浅话萧敬腾

2011-10-03T19:55:00.001+08:00

今天休息

就因为昨天在 Facebook 偶然点击到的 Youtube 歌曲
而花了一个早上的时间搜索萧敬腾的音乐录影
和他在《超级星光大道》的片断来看

科技真好
犹如天神般的穿梭时空回到过去
窥看时空的点滴

那时的萧敬腾才 20 岁
因为在一场 PK 赛事输给杨宗伟而哭了

也记得在《超级》刚出来献唱的他
让评委说拿麦克风的姿势不对

他在里头很羞涩
没什么台风
但歌喉完全不可忽视

现在的他很不一样了
时间和历练如果打不死人
那人多少都会有作为的

萧敬腾现在的舞台魅力和那时在《超级》的
相差是天和地
歌唱方面更广
自信更多

人
不就是要这样嘛
一定要成长
不然就愧对老天和时间给你的功课

艺人只有两种
戏子
巨星

没有中间的
很残酷

而戏子对自己很介意
对座儿的很介意

巨星是忘我的
演绎得给自己的
不然就是对着不知明的空气

诸位能够回想一下
张国荣
梅艳芳
王菲
张学友
他们各自唱自个儿的
最多抛个媚眼

**　张学友早年也多跳舞，但现在江湖地位稳了，就少跳了。王菲什么都不管呢。呵呵呵

戏子就哗众取宠

但座儿的就喜欢陶醉在自己的角儿呀
那才是练家子

大人们为什么喜欢小孩子
因为小孩子真和投入
他就做他自个儿的
咱们大人们就成了最开心的观众

但角儿们都是孤独的
他们的艺只有他们自己了解
所以有时候
他们是痛苦的

犹如顶级的艺术家

萧敬腾在访问里
话不多
多数其他的巨星们也是一样

张国荣喜欢逗人开心
就比较多话

杨宗伟现在的路不比萧敬腾好
我想有些当时　《超级》　的评审也想不到吧

杨宗伟是输在不够一个　“痴”　字

萧敬腾　《超级》　过后的节目表演至今都很一致
就是很　“自闭”　的演绎
这样才能有发挥呀

分心了如何做到最好呢？

但艺术家和巨星都有个共同点
就是头脑容易短路

“自闭”　的世界很吸引人
那百分百是你自己的乐园
你就是王

就因为吸引人而使巨星们沉迷
多少巨星都忧郁
或是吸毒
或是酗酒

这些不是成名的错
不是金钱的错

是个人的执著

但艺术家和娱乐圈巨星吸引我们众人的不就是他们的　“痴”　吗？

他们的灭亡
我们都有份

但如果他们不走上这条路
不燃烧自己来绽放独有的异彩
结局很多时候也一样悲惨

这些故事告诉了我们什么？

都是命

咱们走咱们使命的道路就对了
然后别人的故事少闲话家常的说

免得造口业

我也在努力当中

呵呵呵

Swee! (Updated Version)

2011-10-02T23:09:00.003+08:00

Good O' Times

2011-10-02T19:39:00.002+08:00

Dearie Dear Sis......

2011-09-29T23:57:00.002+08:00

Pwease remember a box of nice chocolates for me, it's for Awesome Curry Neighbour. Fank kiew yiew many many many. *WIDE GRIN*

~~I just had some nice cranberry muffins from her.~~

*innocent WIDE GRIN*

The Club WIDE GRIN

2011-09-28T10:53:00.002+08:00

Sis! 2nd Draft Tossed Over Oredi!

2011-09-27T14:16:00.001+08:00

Talk over Skype when you can. =D

I've Said Too Many Times That I Lurve Mai Facebook Fwens..... WIDE GRIN

2011-09-25T10:44:00.002+08:00

Ah Fry Is Such Awesome Sister WIDE GRIN

2011-09-24T21:18:00.003+08:00

There ya go, sis, something better for your Mango's wallet. Got many nice peekchures 的！

http://thesimplestaphrodisiac.blogspot.com/2010/04/straits-kitchen-grand-hyatt-singapore.html

Mango Guy said he's gonna give Fry Household a treat when they're back for vacation next month + sis asked me for suggestions. I naturally like Ritz-Carlton's spread being the more ang-mo pai me, but sis knows how uber expensive it is and vetoed my idea (HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA), so I suggested Straits Kitchen, 'cos folks like local food more than ang-mo food, ya see.

I've no chance to blast Mango Guy's wallet to bits again. Le sigh.

Dude, can I ask for a MaCallan 15 from the DFS from you? *WIDE GRIN*

Hu-仔！Sent You Emew Oredi!

2011-09-23T10:31:00.002+08:00

To your private one. Lemme know if you didn't receive, hohkay? *WIDE GRIN*

Dearie Sis.....

2011-09-22T10:36:00.004+08:00

I've received your email this morning, with regards to that injustice you've mentioned to me already, and I hope that you've a few good slow minutes to read my 1-cent worth here.

Communism, as you friend casually brought up, is one of the worst governing system in the world, be it the public or private sector. Every talent is suppressed and repressed by the central body, the worst of human sins are magnified, just because every human rights is thrown down the drain.

Animal Farm story, anyone?

I remember vividly of the TV news in our very young childhood, before the USSR crumbled - scenes and scenes of empty bread stores, people rushing to grab breads for themselves and their family, empty supermarket shelves......And the millions of people starve to death in China's Great Leap?

These are the sins of Communism, because it repress human will and talents, the worst of them rear its devil horns to harm fellow human beings. The childish ideal that every human is equal is laughable. Every human being is not born equal in strengths and weaknesses, so all of us should have the free rein to do where we can contribute to the society. This is then equal.

However, being unequal in such, every of us should have equal rights to live as a respectable one.

This is where Communism fails.

Every country and company has systemic faults, as long as human beings are in the clockwork, there're bound to be faults. What's happening now in US and Europe isn't about systemic issue, it's the human issue. Like how people love to say money is the root of all evil, surely money don't come alive in the middle of the night asking you to spend on 20 Pradas, or drink yourself silly?

It's the weak and ignorant will of human beings that brings the downfall of everything in history, after enjoying their own sweet fruit of success after toiling to get things up. Human beings is a weird race that I cannot fathom of their doing even till now.

But I've more or less understand their working - that is to surely fail after success because of complacency or unwillingness to innovate with the Times.

Our dear Singapore will fail too, it surely will after the 4th generation of able leader dies out. It's now showing it's silliness in many little ways already, like maggots starting to grow on dead flesh......Things like this are the way to go if human beings fail to grow wisdom.

And no "best system" will prevent its failure, because human beings is right in the control of the system, as true as money don't come alive to make us sin the middle of the night. Alas, but so so true.

Being marginalised by ignorant twerps and supported by as bad bosses in companies is a common sob story in every country, every company worldwide. I know your brilliance, and so with many other people in your system who has to sit up in your presentation(s). Please don't let go of the vision of a bigger picture.

The bigger picture of being free to use your talent for the right people, and money.

I've seen many, and I'd like to share this little bit of Life which I've witnessed - The brilliant either emerge a winner, or ends up being a minion in the clockwork. And the difference in the ending of the stories is handling their emotions in situations like these.

There're many such stories in the Bible too, that the greats are often tested by the seemingly willful hands of Time and Life. But if we're looking closely, shouldn't the best be well-tested of their worth? For if not, and they get too easy and complacent after their victories......imagine the amount of damage they can do to the human race?

I'm not saying that you will be, but everyone has that probability in them, as we're human beings. We've all the seeds of the 7 Sins in us waiting to sprout. I'm not letting myself go easy too, eventhough I'm a Buddhist, because I understand human beings very well.

So for every trial and tribulation thrown to me, I know the Above is making sure I turn out well in the future, where I humbly accept. Never let go of the vision of the bigger picture, my dearie sister. This is how the best emerge regardless of brilliance.

And the Above always have a right reason to throw us spanners to make us fall, we just don't know at foresight. The dawn of realisation often only comes at the hind, and we'd be glad that we've passed the Test.

So many people regret (or say, "I should've known/done this or that earlier!", which is the same) as Time goes on in their lives. And these very people are the ones who are not willing to set their sights for the big picture that is often painful to keep in our minds.

You're a brilliant person where few can exceed, and a brilliant person should have an equal strength of EQ to bring them forward in life. For themselves, their family, their society and human race.

I sincerely hope you receive the picture I've been trying to share with you, so you don't lose out in the Great Rat Race of Life. Once you're out of the Great Rat Race of Life, you're no longer a rat. A cute hamster like Hamie, perhaps? Heh.

Yours Lovingly,
Your elder sister, Ah Fry

There You Go, Sis. Cost Price For Baby Sunshine Rental WIDE GRIN

2011-09-21T23:42:00.002+08:00

If More Women Are Like Bel (Humor), The World Might Be An Easier Place.....HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

2011-09-21T13:10:00.000+08:00

The Baby Sunshine That Had Her 2.5 Parents (Godmama Me = The 0.5 WIDE GRIN) Eating Outta Her Teeny Hand!

2011-09-21T12:17:00.002+08:00

How she protested when I was catching 万福楼 at Lia-Lia's last night, just carrying her to watch with me.

She wants 100% from any adult that came onto her path.

And when me + Lia-Lia talks, she'd gibber loads just so she's part of our conversation.

Tsk tsk tsk......Who'd be the unlucky dude 20 years down the road!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

For This Rainy Off-Day Ah Fry Has, Ah Fry Is Meant To Entertain You All WIDE GRIN

2011-09-20T12:52:00.004+08:00

*** Psst. Calculated wrongly = $36.50 = about $70,000 worth of term insurance niah niah. Paiseh is Ah Fry!

And so, my off day before the week starts tomorrow with classes, Ah Fry is happily mooching around on the net in front of the lappy, enjoying her teh-tarik + C in this rainy day. And my little BB rang with an unknown number........

** What you're about to read is something quite out of the norm = blog-worthy.......

Me: Ah Fry speaking.
Dude: Harlow! Are you Miss Ong Ah Fry?
Me: *sigh* Speaking. --> 99% of the local peeper donch seem to get it when I answer their phone with my name already put out to them......
Dude: I'm calling from CountryBank, and do you have abit of time to hear out our new product?
Me: Ok, go on.
Dude: We've this new policy for dental care......it's the latest product in Ah Sing where your dental needs are taken care of......*suddenly a rowdy chorus of HAPPY BIRTHDAY SONG came on at the background*.......Where you enjoy big savings for your dental needs.......*BIRTHDAY SONG SINGING GETS LOUDER* ........This is one of the kind in Ah Sing.......
Me: Wait. Wait. WAIT.
Dude: *taken aback* Err....yes?
Me: Your colleagues are celebrating a birthday and you're not there?!
Dude: Oh oh! Hahahaha.......I'm sorry, so sorry for the chaos right now.....hahahaha......it's a small office and.......
Me: Hey, hey. Wait. WAIT.
Dude: *meows* Yes?
Me: I want to say, that I'm not offended, ok? What I'm trying to say is, you SHOULD be there having fun with your colleagues, have the cake and sing that song together, and not calling your call-list!
Dude: *meows again* Ahehehehe.......
Me: A good cordial working relationship in the office with your peers is very important too, you know? Don't make people hate you!
Dude: *stammers* Errr....err.....It just happens that the computer generated the calling now......so.....so.....I'm calling you now...... --> bullshit, I know how call centres work
Me: *not about to go into tug-of-war of who's right* Oh well, go on with what you have to say.
Dude: *brightens up* Thank you! So you see, this is a very unique plan in Ah Sing where only CountryBank holders will enjoy.......
Me: Wait. Hold on. WAIT.
Dude: Errrr.....yes?
Me: Cut the sales pitch, I was a Business Development Manager, I know every sales pitch in the world. Just tell me straight the cost and what it covers, ya?
Dude: Oh, errrrr.....ok. *starts telling me the full story*

** Convo went on for another 3 minutes.

Quite an unusual situation from a telemarketer, no? Hahahahahahaha.......this dude ain't smart at all, looking at how he choose his battles and his pitch.

Retail sales people, take it from the old bird of the sales world, you don't do your business this way. You need to size up your prospect in 30 secs of what kinda person they might be and change your sales pitch accordingly. And please, office relationship is like family relationship = if you don't give face and join in, peeper don't give you respect. It's that simple.

In the end, the sales was a no-go from me 'cos it's too expensive at $36.50 a month and being dental, there ain't much I can get out of the policy, 'cos my wisdom teeth are all out, unless I'm so so suay to get a root canal from a freak accident. Or an accident between me + a crab claw, where I lost.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Eh, $36.50 a month leh, for a 33 year old female + non-smoker Ah Fry hor, I can get about $70,000 of term policy with critical illness + death + TPD covered wor. Like this then wuu-hua mah. Even if I don't get any critical illness in my lifetime before I expire, at least the beneficiaries I nominated get a small kitty to spend/have fun in wor.

Stingy Ah Fry knows how to calculate one 的. *WIDE GRIN*

Hu-仔妹子，你好

2011-09-20T10:28:00.000+08:00

昨天空档
就到咱们家的 Plaza 兜了一下
照我的惯例
NTUC 是必游之站

在那里看到你还在我们这儿常吃的 Gardenia 全谷类面包
不免有些紧张

你再过几周就要回乡探亲了

3 月至时
是 7 个月的日子
以前你没谈恋爱的时候
时间多的是
就常打电话回来
也聊得久

现在有芒果先生就有些不同了

呵呵呵

老妈子在过中秋前说要留个月饼（在结冰阁里）让你回来吃
我说不要好
因为你不嗜甜
老妈子说你说 ok 的
我还是说不好

因为月饼放在结冰阁会失去它的风味
嚼了不好吃

那我又怎么知道呢？
以前和老爸玩过
当然知道滋味啦

呵呵呵

思念是很可怕的东西
我们那年的欢乐和别扭都是很好的回忆
拥有你和老弟为手足是我的大福报
和上苍的恩典

说再多感恩的话也不够
当我看到许多办事者的家庭状况的时候

我是超幸运的大福星
真是老天的宠儿

前天过马路的时候
见到有小孩似乎临难
正准备冲过去解围的时候
车子和人都化开了

松了一口气

那时我想
如果因此而命断马路的话
我是一点遗憾也没有的

在我现在的生命里
每天都活得开怀
心里一点也没有保留的话
该说的全说了

什么时候死也无妨

还有买好的保险
你和老弟、两老都有份
算是离世给你们的小小礼物
想来很安慰

自己没爱人可以抛下
没人会为我而肝肠寸断
那更是一个安乐

爱一个人就是怕对方吃苦、伤心地呀
我这方面的缺口缺得正好

人生是很奇妙的旅程

对任何人
我会说这句经历话

“人生里头，最重要的人是自己和你的爱人。因为自己和爱人是陪着自己走完余生的角色。务必要好好相处，不能亏待自己和对方。”

父母的角色是对方
我们子女再孝顺、本事
只要他们任何一方出问题了
心里的缺角是替代不了的

这是我从我们家两老身上学到的

孩子的角色是他们未来的伴侣
身为父母的是永远无法替代子女另一半的角色
所以教导子女如何选择另一半是个人生大功课
这样当父母的才能回头安乐

单身的人（如我）
最主要是生活要有重心
时时对这世界的人、事、物有好奇、包容、学习心
对宇宙要怀有尊敬和学习的心
时时力求了解它的智慧和规律

对交朋友务必要谨慎选择
人选变质了而不会回头的话比当划清界限
到了一定年龄就要回馈社会
和乡亲父老、街坊邻居们多活动活动
这样的生命才充实、丰富

有爱人或单身的日子皆不容易过
都是学习的过程
但如果爱人不是个样
那单身是幸福的

如果爱人的品质优尚
那做什么事都要回头为其着想、留一手
这就是一辈子的责任

这责任太大了
我这风的族民当当不起
还是不要好
也恳请老天别让我遇上一个佳选
让我两难

阿弥陀佛
善哉善哉

哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈！！

祝
泰安

Man-仔上

Security Blanket/Toy, Or That 臭臭 Thingy

2011-09-19T23:03:00.000+08:00

This article of Duck Duck brought Fry a silly smile. It's basically talking about a kid's security blanket/toy. Princess Kay has a Bee-Bee, while it's too early to see what Baby Sunshine will cling onto. Hahahaha......

And with that blog article, the smile came from my little security thingy-habit that has been with me from young.

From a certain event in my donkey years ago childhood, mom taught me to rub the tip of my fleece blanket to get to sleep. That habit helped me sleep 'cos, well, fleece is like wool, it's an awfully comfortable thing to rub my little fingers with. And this habit followed me till even now.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA........Yah, I say this out also not shy 的 lor.

My fave old yellow blanket (before the discovery of that $60 bamboo spun blanket from China) was my fave 'cos of the soft tipped edge that I can rub my first 3 fingers with before I fall asleep. And when it became too grubby to use (almost 10 years of laboured service!), I know I need to find its replacement.

** I can go without it for a few nights if I'm out of the house, but more than that few nights, I go to sleep a tad slower. LOL

Hengfully, I found that silk-like edged bamboo spun blanket. It was a $60 well-spent 'cos it's so cool to have, and frankly, the weather these days cannot allow me to sleep with a fleece blanket without the aircon. And I can't do aircon very well after the Great Chickie Pox Run, my somewhat weak respiratory system is even weaker since, though it's on the slow road to its old state.

So now, my fingers can still rub themselves against that soft spun in bliss every night. Heh.

Now, do I remember a fwen has the same habit as me?

Hahahahahahahahaha......!!

2011-09-19T22:46:00.000+08:00

** Sis wanna tell me to tell bro that he's an awesome bloke in the Lasik Affair and I did........

Bro: Ai yah, not like it's alot lah. 又不是几十万的东西......Wait, 我没有几十万 hor? *eyes look up into ceiling + mind in thought*
Me + him: Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.......
Bro: Hunar. Not like it's 几万块的东西。Yah. *WIDE GRIN* Hehehehe.......
Me: Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.......
Bro: 有几十万 would be nice, man. *turns head to nod cheekily at me* It would be goooooood.......
Me: Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.........

I'm a stingy cheapo Fry, I am, I am. Hehehe....... =P

What would I do if I've a few hundred thousand dollars of dough? I dunno, not been there yet. Ha. I've learnt in Life (so far) not to say fings too early. =D

But if I've a few ten thousands, I'd change office immediately. This is what I need to do.

It Must Be My Accumulated Good Karma From 1000 Lifetimes WIDE GRIN

2011-09-19T18:31:00.005+08:00

Ok, story as goes below.

Fwen encouraged me to do Lasik since last year, where she has done in JB.
I stingy say "wait for the right time".
Then just last week suddenly feel like knowing more about that JB clinic - Optimax.
Then I told her + another fwen (we is the 3 musketeers liao) that they don't allow interest-free installment with foreign credit cards, even if issued by Maybank.
Then I donch wanna do oredi.
'Cos I donch wanna cough up a sum just to beautify Fryself + save abit of hassle in life.
Ooeii, quite a sum of money leh, money difficult to earn, ok!
So kind fwen offered to pay up for me + I pay her monthly by 12 months.
I was like FWAH!!
But I rejected her kindness 'cos I don't wanna be cheapskate.
'Cos ultimately, it's not that I can't afford + an emergency that I need to attend to = it can wait.
Fwen is so cute, she "chey" me when I told her my decision.
HAHAHAHA.
I didn't tell anyone in the family (except mom, to tell her how awesome my fwen is!) yet 'cos really, it's not something big at all deh.

And then, talking to mom about Lasik, bro floated by and heard our conversation and.......

Bro: Ai yah, I lend you lah!
Me: *glistering eyes full of appreciation + happy thoughts in the brain* WAH!
Bro: Afraid you'll run away meh!
Me: Ahehehehehehe.......
Bro: Even if you do, your room will be mine.
Me + him: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!
Me: Ooeii. Jin gam-dong leh! Ahehehe......
Bro: Ai yah, small fing lah.

I admit I'm a big cheapo, cheapskate, 孤寒, stingy Fry and all. I've never spent $100 on a gift for any of my past relationship that bad. And I've such awesome siblings + fwens!

Peeper, I tell you, do more good, it's for your current and/or next life. I don't know what I've done to get these fwens + siblings, but I guess I must have done enough. Hehehehe......

And then, I skipped over to tell mom of what bro told me, and mom said.......

"See, your brother so nice to you! You must cherish leh!"
"Of course I know! And who says I don't cherish him? I bought so many 好吃的 for him!"
"Kekekeke......."

Mom was smiling most sweetly when she heard it. Of course, I tell you lah, 110% of the parents in the world are most happy to see their kids getting along well 的 lor. That's besides good health, reasonable personality, happy family and stable job lah.

Ya know what I mean. Heh.

孙悟空与唐三藏

2011-09-18T00:20:00.002+08:00

今晚这集的《西游记》很有意思
师父又撵走爱徒
随后有妖怪来闹双胞

真是考验这师徒情

托南怀瑾的宏福
他介绍看《西游记》来了解修炼的各个关口
我就多加注意里头的故事情节和排列

又开窍了
仔细些思考还真有功夫可寻

唐僧收徒弟自有功课要做
孙悟空拜师自有功夫要学

我今年无故（说来，这世间没有无故这回事）碰到的 5 个徒子就是大功课

怕徒子吸收不到
担心自己不够道行教他们
他们迷糊的不知所以
有个就蠢得自以为是、不知天高地厚（特让我呕血，猪的可以）

他们比我还轻松
为师的我就比他们急

真折腾

外人以为当师父就高等
是你没当过就看我风光吧
我才不想干呢

有一位有些道行的办事者是独身作业
我和 Malachite Guy 聊起我徒子的事
眼角留意到那办事者不屑的目光

哼
你以为我风光呀
我还觉得你自在呢
都送你去操练
免费的
让他们喊你老师去
我不稀罕也没心思玩

众人只见台上丽影
不知台后艰辛

而我自己这边厢
师父一直对我不理不睬、冷言相对
我却仍不失敬师之心
虽然不明所以
但都当考验来积极面对

有一次和 Malachite Guy 倾诉此挡苦处
他一言惊醒梦中人
“开悟前是师父渡，开悟后是自己渡自己呀.......你想靠你师父多久啊？”
然后对我微笑

啊
难怪我卜卦问明所以时
师父对我还是有情有义的
但在人前冷漠不已就太奇怪了

叹
修行真难呀

要不是明以智慧断除轮回、忏悔前尘业障
这路真是没意义走

孙悟空难道不想花果山的逍遥、自在吗？
可是他知道那是泡沫幻影
所以才一心向佛修行地呀

我以前当个打工仔不知多自在风骚呢
那小小的压力今昔看来根本不是玩意儿

以前有师父骂
怕得要命
见到他就自然紧张

现在要他骂骂都没门了

真是一山峰有一山景呀
回头山壁岂陡峭
前头路还不知明
半边山崖半边雾

人生呀
人生！

哈

美丽的心

2011-09-17T21:38:00.003+08:00

我生来有些孤寒
以前打工的时候就已经这样
（当然，自己认为好的东西，花起来是不手软地）
现在自己出来拼更是

一位友人一直大力推旬让我的眼睛做矫正手术
而我就直说等待时机成熟

近来不知为什么心痒
跑去搜寻友人在新山的矫正中心的资料
她就听了大乐
直鼓励我去做

好啦
心理准备好啦
就询问以本地信用卡免息分期付款
他们说不行

那我就罢了
（也不完全是，我在 MSN 的开头是，“真伤心，不给分期付款。”）

友人就问为什么不做了
我就当然说了

不是我没钱
但有免息分期还
何必一次过呕一堆出来呢？
他们也不会倒闭
过些日子也不会涨价

不急啦

那友人这时就可爱了
说或许为我向她马来西亚的朋友借信用卡
助我一臂之力

哇
感动之至
连忙道谢

今天下午和她与另一位友人午餐
她就说了
“呃，我想了想这么做很奇怪，不如这样吧，我替你还！你分期还我算了！”

哇！！
真是两肋插刀的巾帼豪杰！
而且她也不是富贵人家咧
那么豪气
我汗颜了

我当时诧异的很
只差没流下两行泪 + 两撇鼻涕的叩头赔谢

她还不当一回事

为了这免息的事
我是没紧张
她就替我张罗

随我们午餐的另一位友人也很可爱
“迟些做也不打紧，你戴眼镜也很好看呀。”

呵呵呵

承蒙诸位爱戴
我真愧不敢当

话说回来
我这个龟毛碰上这些好人真是几辈子修来的宏福
她们没怪我寒酸
倒还想帮我来了

罪过罪过

这事回头说给老妈子听
给她训了一下
“你呀，千万不要这么做呀！羞死人了，又不是没钱做！”

我知道
怎么不知道

我说呀
“我若是这样领情了，我就下流了！根本不是个东西！最多，多存点钱到自己舒服的价位才一次过掏出来做咯。”

老妈子这时才安乐
“就是嘛，做人不能这样。”

嗨呀
还用得着说吗？
我可不是没良心的豺狼呢

呵呵呵

整件事是一部很可爱的喜剧
我们 3 个为了这小事叽叽喳喳的讨论

一个是力挺我去改头换面
（没那眼镜真是不一样，那时我去做的沙龙照咱们 3 个看了都特喜欢，而热情友人格外激动）
一个是理性派的不着急、一边帮我做算数
我这个龟毛就盘算那金额
不顾那张脸

呵呵呵

让自己好看是小事
这过程看到两个朋友的热心才是大事

那眼睛矫正现在不做一点也不打紧
我对自己的容貌反正一向不在乎
又不是破相呀
没什么好急的

但我们 3 个在过程里头那么乐才是重头戏
真好玩
又好笑

爱死你两了
朋友！

哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈！！！

深受其害吧，朋友？Too Bad. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.......=P

2011-09-16T20:34:00.000+08:00

一个感人的爱的故事

2011-09-16T20:04:00.004+08:00

今天和两老、阿姨和姨丈到金沙的酒店吃自助餐
阿姨在那里算是豪客
累积的分数就请大家聚餐

而阿姨和姨丈的一生故事也颇为传奇

姨丈在家族里是个嚣张的人
说话大声
有钱的爱炫耀自己

但以我个人观察
他不过是那种老派的有钱、阔气海派人
说话、行事自然招摇

他是个典型的急性子
不喜欢笨人
他说的话若听者不明所以
他就烦了

哈哈哈

但这汉子真是条汉子

阿姨早年在姨丈打拼生意的时候
时常赌博而欠下一屁股债
家务和 3 个孩子都丢给姨丈料理

一个男人在外拼搏回家还要拖地、煮饭、洗衣、带孩子
其中一个儿子交上坏朋友
而染上毒品
被关过

这一切的一切
没离开这个女人
没离开过这个家

而阿姨欠下一屁股的债
姨丈都一一还清（数十万咧！）
只和她吵架
从没说离婚
也没听过他在外有女人

现在孩子都长大了
那嗜毒的儿子也回头了
3 个都成才
年入百万薪水
两老开心的退休

如今
姨丈也没阻止阿姨到外头赌博
还时常车她来回呢

时常台词是
“她跟我的时候，我是个穷光蛋，和我吃苦，现在大家都好了，她要怎样就随她嘛！”

哇
我听了都拍手
俯首称臣

实在伟大

今天的午餐一直看着姨丈
因为平时少接触
都是老妈子传来的耳语
所以就借机会观察他

姨丈是个豪爽的人
嗓门是大
但不随便骂人的

很喜欢美食
2.5 钟头的午餐都开开心心、开怀的吃喜欢的菜

就想到几年前他中了癌症
以为自己快不行了
马上立遗嘱把财产和钱都过户给阿姨

天啊
有那么伟大的男人吗？？

（想到我自己好几个前世的混帐样，头不自禁的缩回去。呵呵呵）

3 个孩子里头
表姐最疼惜这个爸爸
知道姨丈中癌
躲在家里连哭一个礼拜不上班

随后马上洒金请最好的医师治疗
家里全换了有机食物和水过滤器
买按摩椅和各个高档食物处理器

前后花了 30 多万
毫不手软

姨丈几年前的老 Benz 车报销了
表姐开现金支票给他买了个 BMW 5-字头的
就是今天车我们的那个

姨丈不管外面的流语
觉得对就投入的做
他再怎么凶
也只是粗话问候
没听过他打过阿姨和那 3 个孩子

听说他中癌之后收敛很多他的傲气
也算不错了

今天一直看他开开心心和我们共进午餐
我很想对他说
“姨丈，你真是个汉子！我要敬你一杯！”
然后拥抱他

当然
他们是老派人
会不好意思的

我也不想让他脸红
不过是对他笑脸常伴、恭恭敬敬的而已

比起我家老头
姨丈和他是相差 100 个光年

但话也说回来
姨丈比起很多男人都相差 100 个光年呢

哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈！！！

P/S: 话说回来，想当年，姨丈是先追我老妈子的。因为老妈子那时不懂情事，就推给这和她双胞胎的阿姨。他一直以来都对这不知时务的阿姨一条心。真重情重义。如果老妈子当时和他在一起了，故事会是如何的结局呢？呵呵呵。

Hu-仔妹子，你好

2011-09-14T09:52:00.001+08:00

你新寄来的电邮让我的早晨格外开怀
笑得我呀
老妈子都从门口问
“什么东西那么好笑？”

都说了嘛
你是把沙漠变成绿洲的天才
不过缺乏点自信

没了信念
何以制造伟业乎！

芒果先生也是另一位佼佼者
不过还没碰到谷底激发他造就奇迹罢了

你们还年轻
心情还不定
还有很多空间

呃
楼上的词好像张清芳的一首歌

呵呵呵

世人都热爱和嫉妒奇才
小心防范就是你的首要功课

切记
若有小人已露心态
先斩草除根
以免后患
万勿心软

那么辛苦在沙漠建造了的绿洲
（据说他们还要个迷你迪斯尼乐园？？）
别让破坏了

世上要找像你的奇靶实在稀有了
以前你还在这里的时候
每次和你聊天都觉得很有收获

好笑的废话多
实在的谈论齐多
好像深夜里唯亮的皎月

我们那一年是一份上天的恩赐
感恩感恩

近来我公务还好
一边做一边学习
每天努力作功课
毫无怠慢

可能年底和 KK 兄和嫂子
外加我两位朋友
浩浩荡荡上金马伦高原吃火锅、游花圃
想的很兴奋

终于找到人一齐上去了

可能离开前先和山神打个招呼
别崩山的让大伙们一路好走

嘻嘻嘻

给我呀
你从荷兰买些好吃的回来就行了
记得一些朱古力
给 12 楼的邻居地

别小气了
或许她会再煮些咖喱上来给我们呢？
届时
你不就吃着了嘛？

哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈.......

祝
泰安

Man- 仔上

Making Food For Baby Sunshine! WIDE GRIN

2011-09-12T23:26:00.002+08:00

Hu-仔妹子，你好

2011-09-12T01:08:00.000+08:00

有些日子没给你写信了
虽然咱们是有通 Skype 聊天的

还有一个月你就回乡探亲了
在倒数吧

嘻嘻嘻

LN 那份合作断了
无法忍受她的蛮横脾气
所以我提出拆伙

她对她的男友发脾气都一点道歉也没有
我对她有经济价值就低头说对不起
看了遗憾

断了好
不然一定夜长梦多
现在不断以后也会断的

我的作风一向是快刀斩乱麻
不拖拖拉拉
该做就做

人生是很奇妙的事
有时不知是奇缘还是孽缘

但奇缘也好
孽缘也罢
最重要是能够醒悟、回头是岸
拍拍沙尘又是一条好汉
重新出发

近来特有感触

一个人在我生命里若影若显
中间的插曲和峰回路转只能感叹
断了吧

一直无法吹成的缘分
不是缘分
不过南柯一梦、海市蜃楼

虚无缥缈的东西
风花雪月过了醒来原是梦
不如放手的好
远远给与祝福了

很了解自己
我生来就是风的族民
别拖累人家好
到头来两败俱伤就阴功了

哈哈哈

豁达
到现在的我比较容易豁达了
若是把握不到的
就放手好

我不喜欢难过的日子
开心太重要了

哈哈哈

金城黄缕都是梦
星星扑手总是空
昙花一夜再多姿
破晓垂头哪来荣

很多人就是过不了意乱情迷的那关
才会画下悲歌的

悲歌
今世和很多的宿世画下不少
可以说是家常便饭了

既然都那么熟悉
何苦再吃下呢？

祝愿有情人终成眷属
无缘人早日脱离苦海

世间事就是如此地呀

哈哈哈

祝
泰安

Man-仔上

Ah Fry's Teeny Weeny Charity Drive WIDE GRIN

2011-09-11T16:16:00.002+08:00

Looking Blur Ting + CH's kind acts in Cambodia, then KK + J's donating coffins to a Thailand temple for the homeless and destitute, and then some stories from A + Malachite Guy......I has decided to start my little charity work too.

I've decided to put aside SGD$100 every month into a charity organisation that I've shortlisted, by going in person to pass the money (online donation = less money to them 'cos of the bank charges incurred) + visit the place if possible. The charity organisation can be for human, animals or the environment.

If overseas, I'd pass the money to the friend going to make sure it's passed to the charity's hands. I've heard of micro-loan to 3rd world countries to help them set up a small business to bring the family out of poverty too = it's part of my consideration.

I'm not likely to hand my money to large charity organisations e.g SPCA etc 'cos I know how many millions they've in their current account. If I can take part in the volunteer activity packing and handling out food, I'm open for it too.

If any of you is interested in this little drive, feel fwee to join me! We'll shortlist the organisations together and pass them the money every month. I fink it's a much more meaningful work than just using the GIRO or credit card account.

I'm gonna do it with or without hands up. =)))

If you're interested, here's Ah Fry's emew = mail@unripplethewater.com

Rainy Night = Oldie Night! Andy Lau Match Kelly Chen Abit The.....Suusah Lah. HAHAHAHAHA.

2011-09-10T19:38:00.002+08:00

Rainy Night = Oldie Night Part 2!

2011-09-10T19:32:00.002+08:00

Last time listen to this song feel like yucks (Fann Wong not a good singer + match Jeff Cheung is like fresh flower on a piece of......*WIDE GRIN*), it's now so soothing to the ear! Old liao is old liao. LOL

Rainy Night = Oldie Night! WIDE GRIN

2011-09-10T19:29:00.001+08:00

Hahahahahahahahahaha......Love Ya, Bel! Would Love To Meet Your Dearie Bao Bao 1 Day Too! =D

2011-09-09T20:47:00.000+08:00

猪你生日快乐！猪你生日快乐！猪你生日快乐 ~ ~ ~

2011-09-09T00:18:00.000+08:00

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, SIS!! WOOHOO!!!

Have you received the birthday card kiap ang-pow from all us? Hehehehe......

I want nice chow from Dutchland from you! *WIDE GRIN* Wait, I supposed to give you present one hor? Hmmmm.......I'll give you unlimited love + fwee Fengshui consultation + name selections (for the future Littles Mangoes) till the end of Fry life! GOOD, RIGHT? I GOOD, RIGHT?

Ok, additional gift = I won't poke fun of Mango Guy when he's here. Try. I try. *WIDE GRIN*

Love Is.....

2011-09-08T23:20:00.000+08:00

** Because mom neber buys creamy cream-cream cakes for the Fry Household.......

Mom: I bought cake.
Me: *looks into fridge* Eeeeeee.....don't like. No cream 的.
Mom: I don't undertoot, so much cream is so yucky. Why you like cream so much.
Me: Hor. *acts smug look* This is something you dunno one lor......这个叫爱！爱有理由的吗？没有的！
Mom: Hahahahahahahahahahahaha........you ah!
Me: *WIDE GRIN + SMIRK* I is good, right! I good, right! NGIAK NGIAK NGIAK.

In S'pore, We Say It This Way, "Eh, Sorlee Lah. Mai Ah Nee, Can?" WIDE GRIN

2011-09-07T22:09:00.001+08:00

Today I Accompanied Mom To Mt. Eliz For Her Endoscopy

2011-09-06T14:44:00.001+08:00

Nurse: Mdm, you've any allergy to medicine?
Mom: No.
Nurse: Any allergy to food?
Mom: No.
Nurse: Any medical condition?
Me: Her only medical condition is my father. *CHEEKY GRIN*

*2-second pregnant pause*

Me + mom + nurse + neighbouring bed patient: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
Nurse: You're so farnny! Are you the youngest in the family?
Me: *WIDE GRIN* Hehehehe......Nope, I'm the eldest, but the most childish!
Nurse: You like that is good! Like that then happy!
Me: Oh, I make her as angry too, so all balance out oredi. Kekekekeke........

Not bad at all, given all the trash received from LN late last night that broke our partnership = lost cash + time, I'm handling all very well. *Fryself gives pat at the back + WIDE GRIN*

I've Time For Myself Again. LOL

2011-09-06T00:51:00.000+08:00

The partnership with LN has ended.

After all the temper from her + treating me like a trashcan for her work and personal woes as and when she likes + working for her projects that burnt my Sundays + not paid so far for all that I've done. I've my own show to run too, M'dm.

While you've only 1 show to run.

This is someone I'd not even dare to want as a friend, too toxic, too scary. Though I appreciate her introducing Blackberry to me, it's a great worktool.

Sis, I know you'd be happy to hear this end. Heh. Now back to focusing on my 有缘众！=)))

My Emo Song For Now. 脑海里很多画面，心里很多波涛。

2011-09-05T21:56:00.000+08:00

Dual Meaning.....

2011-09-04T13:19:00.000+08:00

** And so, in 1 of the Skype convo with sis, we talked about a certain fashion.......

Me: The clothes are very classic, clean lines, mostly black......you can wear to many places.
Sis: 那就是土啦！
Me + Sis: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!

The New BB Of My Life WIDE GRIN

2011-09-03T22:46:00.006+08:00

Ah, I'm glad I listened to LN's advise to get a BB. Given how most ladies ain't very tech savvy, she's the rare exception who knows hardware very well.

Like how she tells me, "If you want a hardy reliable laptop and good price, Asus," when I mused aloud that my next machine will be a FinkPad.

My Acer Aspire Timeline X ain't that inspiring despite its aspirations. HAHAHAHA.

Now some of you may already know that I'm a IT idiot, and I embrace my Ah Pek phone lovingly till the volume of my work gets more and it's time to embrace technology.

Without boring you all with a review-like entry, I'll just highlight the mains that I love about BB.

Sound alert

To most of you, this ain't a big thing, but to me, it's quite important for my sanity. You see, my course of work involves lots of reading and finking, and I tend to get very engrossed in them. That when an sms alert went off or the phone rang, I almost always get a startle + jolt of my life.

It's not about the sound level, it's the tone of it. BB's alert tones are all very gentle, and more bassy than sharp. I've not got a startle since getting it = my heart can finally recover from all them attacks through the years......Poor is Fry......

Calendar

This feature may look small, but it's the most important of all, helping me keep track of my classes, and appointments. The calendar is far easier to look into than my old Ah Pek phone, and the extra function of listing out the agenda for the 24 hours right at the home page should I want to is really a God-send.

Then I don't need to shift the entire booking 1 week down after a class is delivered so the entire series is saved, all I need to do with my BB is delete that occurrence. Sweet.

LED light Function

Instead of rousing the phone awake to see if I've missed any call or sms (wasting battery + effort + time), I just need to check if that little bulb is blinking red.

Speaker quality

Sound level is crisp and clear, which kinda surprised me 'cos my Sony Ericsson Ah Pek phone lagged far behind in that. Shouldn't SE be better in sound?

Pretty easy to navigate around

LN is rather tech savvy, and she was complaining to me how her iPhone 4 is so tootpid with the navigation. And then 2 of my friends said the same fing, and I've played on it before. iScared. I is very intimidated by iPhone. So this BB is a modern Ah Pek phone acting and looking like a classic, respectable Brit.

Awesome. I didn't get really lost in there, the pathways are easy to figure out given how I've been using Ah Pek phones for so so long. And an IT idiot that I am.

Auto on-off function

BB is made for the lazy Ah Fry! Hahahahahahahahahahaha.......I don't have to on-off my phone daily anymore! Just gotta set when it needs to sleep and wake up! Oh man, how it rocks!

2-year warranty

Hohseh ah! Bao-jiak till the end of contract! WOOHOO!! Ain't it sweet? *WIDE GRIN*

Ending notes

This little baby of my life now ain't no without grouses, but they're nothing to sweat over, and I've yet to fully understand how this whole thing works. But it's good enough for me as long as the main bits mentioned up there pleases me enough to love it.

Narfing is purrfect in the world, ya know.

Ah oh oh, it'd be better if the BB navigation pad likes lefties. I'm kinda ambidextrous that I can type pretty well with my left hand (though I'm a right) but it doesn't seem to react well when my left thumb is on. With my Ah Pek phone, I type + navigate around with my left hand about 60% of the time. Le sadz.

The only bigger grouse is getting used to the QWERTY typepad. It's no longer 341#4#4373#54261#8#4373#5426#264. I'd 2 speowling mistakes since this BB wor. Le sigh. Like I was sms-ing when I was drunk.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha........如果是真的，那至少还不觉得那么冤枉呀！

Hehehe.....Sis, Expect Somefing Nice Coming Your Way!

2011-09-01T10:22:00.005+08:00

You also know mom's taste, but this time, she bought a birthday card that I'd say very nice! Expect the same old = an ang-pow kiap in between the card. Hahahahahahahahahaha.......*WIDE GRIN*

随想

2011-08-31T00:31:00.002+08:00

近来忙碌
所以一些思绪着实无法一字一句的写下来
但都搁在心里徘漩着

《家好月圆》里头
甘泰祖在法庭一番坦白就说到我心里头去

他说
要不是当年他的心软
他的贪图美色
他的无法自拔
就不会抛下糟糠之妻和 6 个孩子
搞到现在要享一享天伦之乐也要偷偷摸摸
闹到上法庭把自己的丑事张扬出去
他后悔
他悔不当初

每个人都有一些悔不当初
我当然也不例外

去年和师父做的几场回溯
目的是要我明白在地球上的好多世是干那些好事
好好忏悔、超度、回向
才能好好了解轮回、因果、业障

了解我现在的障碍在哪里
才能好好做人、从新开始

那几场回溯后
我痛苦了几个月
在房里痛哭不知多少回
哭得一塌糊涂
喝了多少次威士忌
醉得一塌糊涂

甘泰祖的经历
在前一、两世
我也有过

那深深的遗憾和懊悔很能明白
所以特别有感触

世间上所有的对错
不过一线之差

跨过那个点
就是错或对
就结下因
以后就收哪个果

明明白白
一点也没有欺瞒
也欺瞒不了

因为在人间轮回甚多
所以和师父的几场回溯的都是重要的点
来做重点出击

累积的多数是情债
一堆的情债

因为一时想不开
一时气愤
一时软弱
一时鬼迷心窍
一时欲望
而种下那么多的错因
而负了那么多人
而现世来相报

说男女之事
南怀瑾的分析很有理
他用易经来代表

离卦代表男人
实中虚
外表强悍
骨子里有时很软弱的

坎卦代表女人
虚中实
外表柔弱
骨子里要坚硬起来
问谁也无法比女人硬

当然
男女都有绝情种

但别把男人看绝了
有时男人不是我们想象的坚强
女人也不是我们想象的软弱

做了回溯
解开了我这一世的一些谜团
让我明白了很多的问号

痛苦之后
痛哭之后
恶醉之后
我开始整理自己心里很多东西
视野开阔了很多

也自然少了很多对人事的批评
偶尔碰上会多言几句或发点牢骚
但深切的明白一切都有源头
就不去斥责什么了

心里很快就平静下来

这世界很公平
怎么做就怎么收
不过时间罢了

所以现在我常劝人
“慢一点来决定，先出外透透风，或洗个澡，或去吃点东西、喝杯水，或找人聊聊，或去睡个觉.......总之先冷静下来才好好想想，一切再作决定也不迟。不然后悔就来不及了。”

慢
是现代人的奢侈品
也是很多现代人不愿意的一种美德

但这个慢很有技巧
不是叫人拖泥带水
是花多点时间思考一下、衡量一下

必要的话
拿张纸、笔把思绪写下来
从纸张画出个头绪、计划来
过程也能让人较清楚方向

很简单的事
效果也不错
但就是少人去做

认为自己不用像小孩子一样的逐一例下事项
认为自己的头脑够清醒、灵活来处决事务

这就是很多人错误的地方

小孩子少错
因为他们无法快

而大人反应太快
就犯下过错了

Tales Of A Small Fry = 福星の故事s

Because Amy Showed Her Eons Ago Photo = Ah Fry Also Game To Share! *WIDE GRIN* Pick Me Out From The Photo + You Is Get Fwee Gift From Me! Good One Hor, Not Cheapo 的 *WIDE GRIN*

For The Last Few Happily Quiet CNYs, I is Reminded Of Maternal Ah Ma

Musings of (Work) Life

Discovered By Chance. Faye Wong Got Dance For Audience One Wor! WOOHOO!!

Lai Lai Lai, Chinese New Year Liao = Have Some Flashback In The Timespace Tunnel! *WIDE GRIN* This Is For The 80s - 90s Peeper 的. *WIDE GRIN*

再说南怀瑾

You Cannot NOT Love This Dog. Must Watch, Hohkay?

宝贝，给你的信

Learning

My 2012 Wish

杂诗

I Love Jokes *WIDE GRIN*

This X'mas + New Year + Other Tales

杂诗

Singles Looking For Love Should Look Into This As A Guide, Quite As Thorough As It Can Get With My Personal Experience + My Clients'

学习随想

New Flash - SIS, CALL HOME WHEN YOU IS THE FREE

Empowering Thy Self

宝贝，给你地。*WIDE GRIN*

生日快乐，宝贝 =)

Year 2011

Finding Love

A Life Journey Of Mistakes

The Case Of Last Year's Chickie Pox Run That Gave Ah Fry Heh-Guu....

宝贝，给你。

Ah Fry S'pore Association of Low Traffic Bloggers.....Gathering Time? *WIDE GRIN*

Bee + I

Dear Hu-仔

老天会给机会的

Dear Friends, For The Sake Of Your Happiness, Don't Be Like Her. We've Not Contacted For 15 Years + Come Up Now To Ask This.....

Wedding Of The Century In The Fry Household!!

给老天的信

宝贝，蜜蜂宝贝，这首歌是给你的 =)))

什么是爱？

Dearie Hu-仔

蜜蜂，给你的信

I Lurve You Too, Rusty ~ ~ *kiss on head + WIDE GRIN*

蜜蜂，给你的信

Dearie Dearie Hu-仔 Sis....

Hu-仔！Emew Sent To Your Private Address Oredi!

Ah Fry's Findings On Happiness

Hu-仔, Emew Me Your Address.....

My Exact Thoughts.....Though I Don't Dream Of Bee Every Night Lah. Of Course, I'm Not An Infatuated Youth Anymore =)))

给蜜蜂的一封信

师父前后

蜜蜂前后

Cheeky Fry Strikes Back. Heeeee ~ ~ ~ YAH! *WIDE GRIN*

What I'd Say To Youngsters, Now That I'm At The Ripe Old Age Of 33

小燕之夜与蔡康永

You Have To Watch It Till The End. Come On, Just A Bit Of Patience Niah Lah, Ok? YOU WILL LIKE IT *WIDE GRIN*

Yes, Yes, I Know, I Know. I Boh-Liao. *WIDE GRIN*

最喜欢黄大炜的歌，是这个。Mike 也挺喜欢这个的

在那时空，我们耍帅、耍恨、耍浪漫，爱漂亮，爱胡闹，也都难得的糊涂。少年真好。嘿。

是的。=)))

那年夏天的我们很快乐，很无知。对世界不怎么了解，念书也不怎么好，但都是不错的年轻人..... =)))

We May Have A National Gymnast In The Making! *WIDE GRIN* Or Maybe Dancer. Lia-Lia Wants Her To Learn Ballet. Or Was It Dancing? Guppy-Memory Godmama Forgot. =P

Basics Are Important, Not Those Wise Words Of The Sages. Also My Life Experiences So Far. 基本都做不好，讲圣贤话不过是在风花雪月、虚无缥缈的欺骗自己和大家

Sis! 3rd Draft Toss Over Oredi!

I've Always Thought Those Things About iPhone Auto-Correct Were Embellished. Not Anymore.....

Hu-仔！Hu-仔！This One Also Very Swee! Ok, Is My Fave Auntie Zhen Ni Song Lah..... *WIDE GRIN* 老萧 Got Sing In There!

浅话萧敬腾

Swee! (Updated Version)

Good O' Times

Dearie Dear Sis......

The Club *WIDE GRIN*

Sis! 2nd Draft Tossed Over Oredi!

I've Said Too Many Times That I Lurve Mai Facebook Fwens..... *WIDE GRIN*

Ah Fry Is Such Awesome Sister *WIDE GRIN*

Hu-仔！Sent You Emew Oredi!

Dearie Sis.....

There You Go, Sis. Cost Price For Baby Sunshine Rental *WIDE GRIN*

If More Women Are Like Bel (Humor), The World Might Be An Easier Place.....HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

The Baby Sunshine That Had Her 2.5 Parents (Godmama Me = The 0.5 *WIDE GRIN*) Eating Outta Her Teeny Hand!

For This Rainy Off-Day Ah Fry Has, Ah Fry Is Meant To Entertain You All *WIDE GRIN*

Hu-仔妹子，你好

Security Blanket/Toy, Or That 臭臭 Thingy

Hahahahahahahahaha......!!

It Must Be My Accumulated Good Karma From 1000 Lifetimes *WIDE GRIN*

孙悟空与唐三藏

Because Amy Showed Her Eons Ago Photo = Ah Fry Also Game To Share! WIDE GRIN Pick Me Out From The Photo + You Is Get Fwee Gift From Me! Good One Hor, Not Cheapo 的 WIDE GRIN

Lai Lai Lai, Chinese New Year Liao = Have Some Flashback In The Timespace Tunnel! WIDE GRIN This Is For The 80s - 90s Peeper 的. WIDE GRIN

I Love Jokes WIDE GRIN

宝贝，给你地。WIDE GRIN

Ah Fry S'pore Association of Low Traffic Bloggers.....Gathering Time? WIDE GRIN

I Lurve You Too, Rusty ~ ~ kiss on head + WIDE GRIN

Cheeky Fry Strikes Back. Heeeee ~ ~ ~ YAH! WIDE GRIN

You Have To Watch It Till The End. Come On, Just A Bit Of Patience Niah Lah, Ok? YOU WILL LIKE IT WIDE GRIN

Yes, Yes, I Know, I Know. I Boh-Liao. WIDE GRIN

We May Have A National Gymnast In The Making! WIDE GRIN Or Maybe Dancer. Lia-Lia Wants Her To Learn Ballet. Or Was It Dancing? Guppy-Memory Godmama Forgot. =P

Hu-仔！Hu-仔！This One Also Very Swee! Ok, Is My Fave Auntie Zhen Ni Song Lah..... WIDE GRIN 老萧 Got Sing In There!

The Club WIDE GRIN

I've Said Too Many Times That I Lurve Mai Facebook Fwens..... WIDE GRIN

Ah Fry Is Such Awesome Sister WIDE GRIN

There You Go, Sis. Cost Price For Baby Sunshine Rental WIDE GRIN

The Baby Sunshine That Had Her 2.5 Parents (Godmama Me = The 0.5 WIDE GRIN) Eating Outta Her Teeny Hand!

For This Rainy Off-Day Ah Fry Has, Ah Fry Is Meant To Entertain You All WIDE GRIN

It Must Be My Accumulated Good Karma From 1000 Lifetimes WIDE GRIN

Making Food For Baby Sunshine! WIDE GRIN

Ah Fry's Teeny Weeny Charity Drive WIDE GRIN

Rainy Night = Oldie Night! WIDE GRIN

In S'pore, We Say It This Way, "Eh, Sorlee Lah. Mai Ah Nee, Can?" WIDE GRIN

The New BB Of My Life WIDE GRIN