Musings of (Work) Life

I was reading this off a friend's Facebook and recalled her working life so far.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/holly-robinson/quitting-your-job_b_1211880.html

She's a spunky woman in our sheltered S'pore, I shall recount her story in points for easy reading.  Hehehe....

A professional with MNCs (not high-flyer).
A good worker + good relationship with peers and boss.
Whenever she feels like wanting a break or doesn't like the company anymore, she quits her job.
Takes a long break = about 6 months each time.
Travels around.
Then starts to look for job again.
She always gets it.
In the recent end of siesta late last year, she has 4 offers from MNCs to pick from.
Whoever says the job market is bad?

And with reading the article she shared, I looked at her + looked at myself.  Story below in points too.  Heh.

I was a salesperson for 13 years.
Changes a job almost yearly.
Some lasted only 8 months.
I change once I felt bored or doesn't agree with the company's management policies.
By right, my CV doesn't look good = poor employment chance.
But I always got it + excel as the top sales or one of them.

Looking back, I don't know why I'm so lucky, till I recalled the comments made by 1 of my previous boss + a recruiter of their impression of me in the interviews.

"You're a breath of sun after the numerous interviews of gloomy people, so I decided to hire you on the spot." --> Boss, in the SARS period where alot of businesses were badly hit.
"You glow positivity in the interview which is very rare in people, so despite your poor looking CV, I decided that you're what you wrote, a top salesperson." --> the recruiter who placed me in the best company I've worked in in my working life, it faltered after I left.

Unlike my friend, I'm a job hopper while she often stay for 3-5 years in each.  But like my friend, the relationship with our peers + bosses are often cordial.

I was fired from my job before, when I didn't agree to the working condition set by my boss, which was a very small company.  It's still small now.  I also had my bad patches with the wrong company too.

The point of it all, isn't about being a job-hopper as you fancy.  No.

My point being -

Know yourself well, at where you can excel + where you can't.
Then set forth at finding that job profile.
Don't aim too high nor too low = you're likely to end up feeling dead in it.
Put in your best in your job.
Create enjoyment in it.
Create good relationships with your peers + bosses.

There is no point fantasizing about what you can do or of the perfect job.  Fantasizing = dreaming = dreaming = like talking = it takes no effort.  No tears, no energy (well, little), no reflection of yourself.  It's cheap, and cheap things are often worthless.

Many people dream of being bosses but didn't want to put in the right effort for it.
Many people dream of the big job but didn't factor in the monumental effort for it.
And then, there're people who put in huge effort in their work, but the wrong kind.

There're many people who thump their chest, proclaim the desire to change their life forever, and got deflated seeing the huge effort they need to put in for any change.  They go back to their old-self again + wallow in misery that they're being pushed into the dead end of Life.

Just the night before reunion dinner, I scolded NX fiercely over the phone of her job woes.  She said her boss hates her and she's miserable.  For an hour, I fired at her citing all the wrongs she has done in her job + how she has never put in the right effort for it.  She cried and I scolded her again for having the thick skin to cry at me.

I put in so much effort to help her at every critical point and she let down herself, her family and me time and again.  I said, your parents have wasted their love + resources on you for the last 36 years of their lives.

To want a decent life, one has to put in effort, and the right one at that.  To be a kind person, one has to dish the right sort of kindness.  I don't believe being forever-good-temper-no-matter-the-situation-or-person = kindness.  Try telling a naughty + rebellious 3 year old kid kindly + softly not to play with matches and see what you get.

There're so many adults who think + behave like a 3 year old, so many people who never grow up despite living for 60 years of their lives.

To live well, it takes an incredible level and depth of wisdom to marginally get what Life is all about.  And with that, the right action is needed to see yourself through the finishing line.

Yes, I've seen so many people who sprout wise words + complaining about Life and their jobs later.  There're so many of such in Facebook = sprouting pearls of wisdom now + talk bad of people later.  Or wallow of being marginalised.

The wise do minute amount of complaining because they know how to handle situations then move on without or little baggage = they have clarity in their thoughts + vision.  Sprouting wise words + complain about people and Life are clowns + actors. 

If not conmen.  To garner sympathies and trick people of their trust + kindness, and their money.